I thought he liked me but I was so wrong

[Honeywithspice]

I’ve had a crush on this particular guy for months and months and a few days ago he made his move whereby he followed me into the kitchen and we ended up kissing.. a couple hours later he proceeded to tell me he’s dating someone so he has to be good but he told me two weeks ago he was single and everyone else believes he’s single too. He continued to grab my ass when no one was around and talk dirty to me even tho he claims to be dating someone. I regret it all so much now

Well, he clearly does 'like' you, but he's also a sleazy attached fucker, so the bit you were wrong about was the bit where you thought he was a decent human being. It's happened to us all at some point. Chin up. Knee the sleazebucket in the nuts and move on.

So he sexually assaults you at work by grabbing your ass, and kissing you.

But he is attached

He is sleaze!!

@Corbally yeah I just want to forget about it all and move on

Hang on, this is at work??? I misread your OP, then, because I thought this was at a party, and consensual. He assaulted you in your workplace???

@Corbally no this wasn’t at work x

Eugh. I'd have nothing more to do with him.

What @Corbally said. It’s disappointing when you realise someone you liked is actually a complete sh1t but no major harm done. A painful but useful lesson. Be glad you’re not his girlfriend and tell him to stop with the sexual assault and leave you alone.

Isn't it a bit odd that everyone else believes he's single though?!

@92miles very odd indeed.

Tell him to knock it off and that you never would have kissed him if you'd known he wasn't single!
Stop letting him grope you, it's not acceptable just because there's no-one else around, he thinks you're ok with it because you're letting it continue to happen.

@92miles

Isn't it a bit odd that everyone else believes he's single though?!

Well how can he assault women and make them think its ok, if they all know he is in a relationship?

Yes but why is it that everyone believes he is single? There must be some sign of a woman if he is dating one?
A bit of context might help of course. Is it like 'that' single personal trainer at the gym who always has a couple of women on the go at a time and one on the backburner while looking out for any new arrivals? Yes he's technically single, but a lot going on behind the scenes?

Well he sounds like a complete loser! I would not bother with him at all .He is lying to you and you arent even in a RL! Just give him the boot

Sounds like he is setting you up to be the bit on the side. He may not even be dating but just tells you he is so that you'll know that sex ect...is all that it'll ever be if you get with him.

A creepy, headfucking waste of oxygen either way.

Such a shame when the gate ones are like that. But now you see it.

*the cute ones

@Honeywithspice

I’ve had a crush on this particular guy for months and months and a few days ago he made his move whereby he followed me into the kitchen and we ended up kissing.. a couple hours later he proceeded to tell me he’s dating someone so he has to be good but he told me two weeks ago he was single and everyone else believes he’s single too. He continued to grab my ass when no one was around and talk dirty to me even tho he claims to be dating someone. I regret it all so much now

Why are you tolerating someone who ‘grabs your ass’? And treats you like this?

He is an utter shit but you have boundary problems. You’re going to be in this boat again unless you unpick your own issues.

The thing is aswell because he’s told everyone he’s single, they’re all telling me he likes me and I should go for it but little do they know he’s a loser

@Honeywithspice

The thing is aswell because he’s told everyone he’s single, they’re all telling me he likes me and I should go for it but little do they know he’s a loser

Just tell them. 'Oh yeah he snogged me last night but then said he had a gf. Thats too much baggage for me so I'm abandoning ship. Lifes too short for that drama'. Then leave it to him to panic like fuck that everyone knows he is scummy.

(Though he'll probably backpedal n say you misunderstood.or deny kissing you).

I would cut someone who behaved like that and if they start chasing you, say very civilly with a smile, 'Not interested, thanks.' That shows them very clearly that you have self esteem and you are no one's pushover. ironically, this is likely to make his estimation of you leap up and he will probably start to chase you.

If other people ask, just tell them he kissed you then told you he was seeing someone which deeply unimpressed you.

I would tell people the truth. He kissed you and then said he was seeing someone. He's an arsehole.

@Pinkbonbon, do this OP.

Be dismissive and raise your eyes to heaven.

Scummy and a twat.

Better that you know.

If they say anything again just be honest:

"Yeah he does behave that way, but I found out he's got a girlfriend so I'm obviously not interested."

Then act accordingly, now that you know. Don't entertain him flirting with you etc, be cold and firm. Ugh he sounds like such a wanker.