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Hurt and Angry with DH

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dragonstitcher · 19/12/2007 22:06

DH has been cold and distant with me for the last few days, to the point of nastiness. He has been normal with everyone else. I haven't had a clue what I have supposed to have done wrong until now.

He has just accused me of being unfaithful because I have cold sores out of the blue. He says that the only way I could have caught the virus is through kissing. I haven't kissed anyone.

I feel like the bottom has just fallen out of my world. I wouldn't ever even dream of being unfaithful. I'm the most loyal person I know. I can't believe he doesn't know me at all.

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PortAndLemonaid · 20/12/2007 11:43

'How did I think he felt?'

Suggested response: "Judging by your behaviour, I can only assume you felt like an unusually petulant 8-year-old."

Herpes simplex 2 is (or can be) a form of VD.

Herpes simplex 1 is not.

Actually, if he can't tell the difference between 1 and 2 then I revise my suggestion to "unusually petulant 1-year-old".

madamez · 20/12/2007 13:27

He needs to sort himself out. Be very firm about this, because irrational jealousy is not just unpleasant to live with, but people who have it very frequently become dangerous partners. Don't pander to his jealousy in the least, laugh at it. Make him get some help and never, never allow him to blame you for his problems. Otherwise you will find yourself gradually seeing less and less of your friends and family, dressing in a frumpy way so as not to be accused ot 'trying to get men's attention', having your phone calls monitored. Then the beatings will start. At the end of the line (and it is a llong, long line, I grant you) is the jealous partner who kills because he/she is so obsessed with preventing the other partner from having any kind of independent life.

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dragonstitcher · 21/12/2007 16:18

Thank you all for your replies. I think he has seen sense now. I won't forgive him for this in a hurry though. He is starting to show a bit of concern for me now that I have come down with pleurosy as well.

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anita64 · 21/12/2007 20:49

Oh, poor you. Pleurisy is v painful- take care of yourself. In fact, cancel that - let DH take care of you and everything else for that matter.

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