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Imposter syndrome in relationships after being single!!!

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AstroGirl5 · 20/12/2021 14:57

Hi all - so I've met this fantastic guy after a year and a half of being single and dating some rather disappointing blokes I really didn't get on with. And the guy is indeed great. We've been together for several weeks now, and are planning our first romantic trip together next week. We are both in our early 40s, we both have 2 kids, we are both divorced. We talk every day, see each other 2-3 times a week, it's honestly great. BUT... I just don't know why I constantly feel like something is just bound to go wrong. That he will wake up one morning and just think that there are much better/younger/prettier/funnier/whatever women out there than me and walk away. I look fine, I am not a supermodel or anything but I am athletic and eat healthily, we both have similar level of education and similar types of careers. But he's very good looking, and after all the disappointments of the last year and a half or so, it all just seems too good to be true. But maybe it is and I am just having cold feet... Has this ever happened to anyone? What do I do? I really genuinely like him and I want this to work...

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MeSanniesareBrannies · 20/12/2021 15:04

I still have that feeling and it’s been three years, we live together, he’s proposed and we’re shortly getting married. So, all signs indicate he rather likes me! 😂

I still occasionally go ‘soooo, this is real, then? This beautiful, clever, kind and successful man, who is the absolute love of my life and everything I ever wanted…he fancies me?’ Then I realise that the answer is ‘yes’, which is rather delightful, and then I go about my day.

Good luck with your new relationship! Smile

AstroGirl5 · 20/12/2021 16:16

Thank you, so it’s not just me 😂😂 I just constantly catch myself not to say something like ‘I don’t understand why you even like meI’ 😂 I know I shouldn’t of course, but I wish I didn’t think such things

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MeSanniesareBrannies · 20/12/2021 17:21

This cartoon sums it up nicely, I think. 😂

Imposter syndrome in relationships after being single!!!
AstroGirl5 · 20/12/2021 17:32

Absolutely!!! 😂😂😂

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