NC because taken with my other posts it could be outing.
I was in an 18 month relationship with an emotionally abusive man who really broke my self-worth and self-esteem. I did a lot of healing work on myself and I am now in a much healthier relationship with a great guy.
However, yesterday I discovered that my ex has a new girlfriend and I am having so many unexpected mixed emotions about this:
- jealousy that she will be experiencing the 'nice' side of him at the moment (lovebombing etc)
- pity for her that she doesn't know what he's really like
- anger that he has moved on
- sadness that I wasn't good enough for him (he has a pic with her on his fb whereas he never did that with me)
- frustration that i helped him to become more kind and caring (as said his colleagues and friends) and that the new girl will benefit from that
- curiosity as to whether he will be able to commit to her (he is textbook avoidant).
We broke up over a year ago. Why do I even care???? I'd like to be the better person and wish him well but I just feel angry and I kind of want him to be alone. Maybe I'm more bitter than I thought...