How to tell child about parents splitting?

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Dd is 12 has adhd. Already has a terrible relationship with her dad. Found out he's been cheating so that's that. He's moved out. How do I tell her? How do I word it? Should I tell her the truth she has very strong opinions about that anyways. It'll cloud her judgement with him but I don't want her to think being treated like that Is OK later in life either? Guess it's all just so raw. So thanks even just for reading.

I think age appropriate simple explanation along the lines of you and dad no longer love each other and need to live apart. Dad has moved to............... and you will be able to see him there.

I wouldn't mention his being unfaithful unless she straight out asks. Good luck

Keep it simple.
Be clear
Don't be vague or give any room.for false hope you will get back together.

Make sure he knows you both still.love him.ajd this is about the adults feelings fir eachityer and not their feelings for him.

Thanks I've no clue how to word it going to sit down and write a rough plan to get it all in order. See I can't say that I don't love him anymore not yet. Don't want to lie to her either

Is DD's father going to be there when you tell her?

You can say that you will always love him because they had you. But that you have both decided not to live together because you don’t love each other like a mummy and daddy should.

She is 12 and doesn’t have the emotional intelligence to wrestle with the complexity of her strong opinion on fidelity and her feelings for her father. She needs reassurance. It is not the time for a life lesson in feelings for a loved one vs teen morality. That’s difficult for an adult to process never mind a teen.

I told my dd when she was nearly 11. She had always told me she would like to know the truth. I told her that her dad had a new girlfriend that I hadn't known about and I said it was ok for him to go live with her, that really he should have been honest and not lied to me but I was ok with it and he was still her dad and loved her very much.

She was fine with it, as opposed to me who was told when I was a teenager that my parents were splitting up but only some time later found out indirectly it was a result of my father cheating. I did not handle not being told the truth very well from the start as a child and believe if I had been told the truth I would have had more respect for both of my parents at the time. Whilst I didn't agree with what my dad did I still had a decent relationship with him. Him telling me at the time that no one else was involved in their split howerver, was a downright lie and I did lose a lot of respect for him though as a result.

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You can say that you will always love him because they had you. But that you have both decided not to live together because you don’t love each other like a mummy and daddy should.

She is 12 and doesn’t have the emotional intelligence to wrestle with the complexity of her strong opinion on fidelity and her feelings for her father. She needs reassurance. It is not the time for a life lesson in feelings for a loved one vs teen morality. That’s difficult for an adult to process never mind a teen.

^^ This..! Keep it simple.

OK so bit of a mixed message. No he won't be here when I tell her. He's never taken much to do with the kids so it all falls on me. My mum thought dad was at it once upon ago and I remember the tension the whole not knowing and she went back to him and made me kinda see her different. I don't really want to be vague as she'll just keep asking questions