Relationships and Depression

[Mused1]

Hi looking for some advice/shared experiences. This may be long so thanks to anyone who takes the time to read
Depression has started up again after a very long time doing well so just back onto the anti-d’s.

I’ve been in a relationship for the last 2 and a bit years, all good, it’s very healthy, trust, communicate well, most definitely the best I’ve been in but I can’t help but feel like cutting myself off from it. I avoid meeting up, making future plans, text/phone less and find it really hard to be affectionate. These feelings coincide with when I started to suffer with depression again.
For context, I got a promotion at work and was non fazed by it, just got on with things no passion. I have a hobby that I used to take seriously but again, lost the passion for it, can’t be bothered. I do the bare minimum appearance wise and most days are spent waiting for the day to end so I can go to bed.
I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that this is a knock on from how I feel in general and not a case of my relationship has ran it’s course.
How is best to move forward? Should I let the meds work (successful before) and give it time or have I genuinely just fallen out of love?
Partner would be supportive, I just haven’t opened up about how down I really am. At the same time I don’t want to hurt him saying I don’t feel love if it’s just a feeling brought on by depression and not actually anything within his control.

Has anyone had depression, took steps to manage it and saved/bettered their relationship in the process?

@Mused1 didn't want to read and not acknowledge. Am not an expert at all, wanting to send you a big hug for posting. Cannot advise professionally but if you feel apathetic about life in general maybe it wouldn't be a bad thing for you to restart your meds. You could perhaps explain to your partner that you do suffer with bouts of depression/ low mood and explain it distorts your feelings a little. If you feel he will be supportive, honesty is really important in the success of any relationship. Be kind to yourself though & trust yourself too xx

As someone who has been the partner in this situation, please do tell him if you possibly can about how you feel. Its not your fault you are feeling this way, but it's also not your partner's either, so communication is really important so nobody feels they are somehow to blame in the event of a break up. I really hope you get the help you need, and your meds start working soon. I don't think we can tell you if you have fallen out of love, but, going on what you have written, your mind is in a different space at the moment. That may change back soon, so take your time, be honest and don't make any rash decisions about your relationship until you feel more certain of yourself. Take good care x

OP, depression classically causes blunting of emotions - a sense of apathy and numbness towards people and previous sources of enjoyment.
Don’t make any decisions about your relationship until your antidepressant medication has had time to work. This will take at least several weeks.
If, once your mood has lifted and you are enjoying life again, you then still feel “out of love”, that will be the time to evaluate your relationship and whether you wish to continue it or not.

I think this is an area where you would know better than anyone else op. We dont know if its your depression or if you've also lost interest in your partner.

Think if were you and was feeling that way though I would be inclined to just change everything and see if I felt more excited about life again.

Maybe that's cutting off your nose to spite your face of course. Might be smarter to see your gp and get a dose of antidepressants and see if that works before any big changes.

Hi..

Totally get you!

I think (as someone who's been in your situation), just keep your partner aware of what's happening, how you're feeling.... It's so important so he knows if you're feeling crappy that it's not personal... Give the meds a chance.... don't make any decisions about your relationship while you're feeling so bad....

Sending you love x

Where do you picture yourself in 2 years/ 5 years time @Mused1

If your depression was being managed what kind of life do you want and with whom?

I wouldn't make long lasting decisions at the moment. Your day/ day and week/ week outlook are that you don't want to do anything with anybody.

Hopefully you get back to a healthier version of you xx

What was the outcome of this please? Did your feelings return?