About 6 months ago I went for a meal with friends. I fell out with a friend as we were playing a game at the table about the year of the song that was on in the restaurant. I said casually as a joke he may have got it wrong. He got very irate and raised his voice saying I always get the years wrong. Later that night we had to pay the bill, I wanted separate bills but he refused. The restaurant was closing and he was struggling to work out the bill he gave me a dirty look as I offered help to sort the bill. He had also been ‘fault finding’ with friends throughout the night.
I called him out on his behaviour which he says I have caused him anxiety for doing this. We ‘made amends’ but did not speak for 6 months. Recently he told a mutual friend to say hi to me and he wished me Happy Birthday. I replied and asked how he was but got no reply.
Some people have known him a very long time and said he rarely contacts people and expects other to contact him which was the case I always made the effort to make contact. Others have said he has Aspergers traits. He doesn’t like criticism as he found the joke about saying he got the years wrong too much. I since found out his parents were very critical and controlling when he was a child, he seems to accept a lot of things as criticism.
When he was nice I miss having in my life and don’t know if I should take a Christmas card to his place but don’t want to rejected at Christmas or be ‘told off’ for an incident 6 months ago which he caused.