Childcare for highly sensitive toddler

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Hi all,

My little boy isn't getting on too well at nursery he looks unhappy and has become very quiet upon collection at nursery and clingy at home the past few weeks, even telling me he had sand thrown in his eyes which the nursery told me nothing about and have just confirmed it did happen..

To be honest the parents seem a bit clicky (not all!) and the teachers know most of the parents, I am new having recently moved here..

I've tried conversations on the drop offs that are falling flat.. I feel this energy extends into the classroom with teachers and their favourites..

the management recently changed and the main lady left.. she was excellent with the kids, whether she knew them/their parents or not..

He attends 3 mornings per week.. we introduced a new nursery last week for 2 settling sessions, which he was very happy about.. he said he wants to attend new one..

My question is - he is highly perceptive more so than most 3 year olds I've met and very chatty, can tell me a lot..

Do I just move him across to new one come Jan '22 start of term or wait a bit and have a proper chat with current one?

Thanks

I’d say move him. It seems he’s happier there from the get-go, yes it’s a gamble but the nursery he’s at sounds joyless.

Hi OP,

It sounds like neither you nor your son are happy with the old nursery. It doesn't sound great from what you have said.

If he seems happy with the newer one and has said this is what he wants, I would go for this one.

Definitely move him to one he's happier at

If you feel the new one is a better fit for his personality then I would change. If he has a few new friends already and better staff members then it will be worth it.

We also changed nursery, for us it made all the difference.

Just move him to the new one - I've done this in the past with DD and never looked back. She was so much happier!

Yes move him. I have 4 kids and one of mine didn't like a nursery and I moved her and she was much happier. She went from not wanting to go to loving it. I found my kids enjoyed the school nursery much more.

If you've already done settling sessions at the new nursery, he says he wants to go there and presumably they have space I don't know why you wouldn't move him?

The only thing I wondered if he's 3 is whether you're using funded hours? If so I'd check whether you can move his funding for January at this point.

It's a no brainier. Take him to the one he wants to go to

I moved my first when he was 3 and it was the best decision we ever made. He went from not being keen on nursery to loving it; not really talking about his day at all to telling me everything he'd done and he absolutely flourished in terms of meeting milestones he'd been behind on. I don't think there was anything particularly wrong with the first one but he was definitely better suited to the second. Don't be scared to make the move!