Husband doesn’t love me anymore

[lotsofmumlove]

Hi there, I’m absolutely petrified . After weeks of me giving DH his space to think . My husband told me he doesn’t think he wants to be with me anymore , doesn’t love me anymore feelings just not their.
I’ve got two dc very young 4 and 18 months and I feel such a failure they won’t have a mummy and daddy together anymore :( .. no kid wants that .
We have a nice home we were doing fine didn’t see it coming.
Now I’m scared of everything . Won’t be able to afford to live here anymore. Will be living in a shed. Just not the life I planned hoped for for the kids :( or us..

To top it all off we’re stuck in the house together as both have got covid isolating, and then he needs to go to his mums till we sort things it’s too hard having him here .. but I worry how this will impact on the kids…

I don’t think there’s anything I can do to stop it from happening without loosing my dignity :( all I can ask if he’s sure this is what he wants. I don’t want any regrets down the line and know I did everything I could to keep mummy and daddy together …

Worst of all he seems fine happy and I’m just miserable … I don’t get how someone can just stop loving someone it’s terrible asi still love him :(

His love not live ..,,

The going got tough with young kids and he's opted out

Yep very likely the OW will appear on the scene as soon as he thinks he can pretend it's a new relationship.

I would ask him to take the DC with him for a few nights every week from day 1.

What a dickhead, he's pulled the rug from under. Get angry OP, he had a responsibility to communicate long before this and he is taking the cowards way out, probably with another woman lined up. Google the script it sounds suspiciously clichéd.

I feel such a failure - why would you think you are a failure? - you have done nothing. Please don't go down that route.

One important thing is that, when you both talk to the children - and the timing and what you say need to be decided between you both - do not whatever you do let him say that he does not love you any more. The children will conclude that adults stop loving others and they will feel that this could happen to them - that either one of you might decide to stop loving them. You need to have some neutral blame-free reason to tell them .... e.g. Daddy has some other things he wants to do with his life and will not be living with us any more - but he still loves you lots and you will see him and do things with him still.

There are lots of children with separated parents, so they will not stick out like a sore thumb at school. Hopefully, if you can tackle this right with the children, then you can minimise the pain for the children.

The real pain is yours - and I feel for you. This must be so hard. But please take heart from the fact that there are many others who have been in your situation and have come through to lead happy lives.

Men rarely leave without someone to go to...even if well hidden they usually have someone who has turned their head.

I'm so sorry Op, of course you are heartbroken, that's because you were commited to your relationship. There is another very similar thread on the board. Sadly it's all to common. When life gets challenging due to hard work of children these weak selfish men check out.

Men shouldn't get the support from their parents for doing this.