Domestic Abuse/ Family Court visitation

[Nivealove]

Hello,

Just seeking some advice. There was an incident 3 years ago where my ex partner assaulted me. I pressed charges, it went to court, put a restraining order in place and added that he could contact me via solicitor- including child arrangements.
After the trial, my ex partner got convicted and he had to do probation and attend some course of some sort.

Fast forward, I just received an email from my ex partners family solicitor about child contact arrangements. I'm not sure what to do and what it entails. The letter is quite vague, he is seeking phone/video calls to my son and for him to have weekly visitation for a couple of hours (I'm assuming cause fo DV). It says I have a time frame to respond by and a consent order will be produced. I really don't want to go through court but what should I do?

How old is your son now and when did they lâst have face to face contact,? Was social services involved at the time of the offence/courtcase?

He last say my son three years ago. There was no social services involvement- maybe because he got charged and I put in a restraining order?

Sorry, he is 12

Did your son witness the assault 3 years ago when he was 9

Yes he did

Would your son want contact?

But my friends tell me that I should not even allow visitation.

You could just ignore the email. Whose to say it didn't go into junk or its an email you rarely check anymore. See if there is a follow up one in January. Don't let it ruin your xmas

My son has been asking for him for the past few years. He really misses him but our safety is always a priority.

Does he know where you live? Do you want him to?

He knows where we live but he has not breached the restraining order.

Usually a restraining order applies to the person and any agent acting on their behalf. So if its still in place, act as if he has breached the restraining order and get legal advice.

Report the RO breach.

Do not respond.

Do not allow contact.

Ask your son what he wants. At 12, his wishes and feelings are important. What about safety? I’d this man likely to still be a risk? How long was your injunction against him?

If you can get someone to supervise contact like the paternal grandparents, who could also drop off and pickup, the that might be a way to reintroduce contact. Sorry you suffered domestic abuse. It’s shitty. I hope your ex can show remorse and put your sons welfare first.

Your ds has a right to see him
See if you can find a safe way
Supervised

Get professional advice.