Neighbour hysterically yelling at heavily pregnant wife.

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My neighbour is heavily pregnant and her husband has just been hysterically yelling at her (not for the first time). He's now gone out. It's horrible. I'm sitting here shaking. I don't want to get involved cos i don't want to embarrass her but how can i sit here and do nothing. DH doesn't want me to do anything cos he says its none of my business. Have called the police to see if she is ok. DH is angry with me for doing so, even so i was crying when i told him.

So Dixichic, your husband was arrested as a result of his breaching the peace, and it was all your neighbour's fault for being nosy and so you aren't speaking to her?

Really? It wasn't your husband's fault then?

Was it just yelling? if so I wouldn't do anything except perhaps check with her that she is ok. If dh and I had a big row and someone called the police then I would be mortified and really pissed of with them. However if they came round and complained about the noise - or mentioned it on another day then I would be really embarrassed and would tone it down in future iykwim.
You don't know whats going on perhaps she's done something really wrong and thats why he is so angry.
The police will probably call in a fortnight anyway when it is all forgotten - round here if your burgled your lucky to be seen that week!

DP and I had a row this morning, nothing major, he feels poorly, I'm hormonal, neither of us were in the wrong but I'm sure our neighbours (if we had any that weren't hard of hearing) would have thought we were going to kill each other.

Plus you say he was shouting "i can't take any more", we don't know the full extent of the row, why it happened or what else had gone on (for all we know she could be violent one and he had enough) so try not to get any
preconcieved ideas, but I still think well done for calling the police, just incase.

FWIW, a few years ago I thought my upstairs neighbour was beating his gf for a while, always hearing rows, her screaming and crying, I went round a couple of times, wasn't until I saw her smack him in the gob whilst he was holding his child, and then scream and eff and blind at him for walking out and 'always putting your fucking kids before me' that I realised it was her that was the one who was causing all the aggro.

we used to live in a house that felt like we had paper walls between us and next door - I rang social services twice because I could hear her child screaming - when I asked her if he was alright she said to ignore him he was in the shower being punished for drawing on her leather sofa - she explained further that the light was off - his clothes were on - and the water was cold - and he would be let out when he stopped crying.

As far as I know social services never contacted her but I didnt' know what else to do.

If you are in any doubt at all you should always call the cops. No-one ever called the cops when my SD was beating the crap out of my mum at very high volume, I have nothing but contempt for the neighbours who lived next to us then, how could they be so callous?

Dixi, if all there is to your story is what you say there is, then that was a police overreaction and very unusual that they turn up at 2am for a statement . Nonetheless, ultimately it was your partner's fault because he was breaching the peace.

Hi Dixi - your neighbour may have called the police cos her sleep was being disturbed.

Tiny - i completely agree with you - it might have been the wife who started it. All i know is that i could hear a man who sounded like he had completely lost his temper. I couldn't hear a female voice at all. If it was her who started it, then maybe the police coming round will scare her into not provoking him anymore.

The thing is, my LO is due end Feb. I don't want this carryon for the next who knows how long.

Jingley - sounds horrific - i would have called the NSPCC.

If you are both preg, could you mention this to your community m/w? She would not say anything to your neighbour that would give it away that you had said something to her. M/ws ARE MEANT TO SCREEN ALL WOMEN FOR DOMESTIC ABUSE AND they could keep a closer eye on her? sorry for caps.

I've heard the yelling once or twice in a few months. I don't really want to blow up it out of proportion. If i hear it on a more regular basis, then i may well mention it to the midwife. I think my neighbour is at the same hospital as me.

Personally I would just stop at calling the police. These situations are very difficult and hes not right but you dont know the whole story. I definately wouldnt speak to the midwife or anyone else at this stage. But I would consider keeping a diary if this is a regular occurence with what you have heard, etc. I would also call the police every time.