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Can you give me advice

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dragonfly2012 · 16/12/2021 19:30

Hi

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dragonfly2012 · 16/12/2021 20:27

Shouting and making me feel guilty

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dragonfly2012 · 16/12/2021 20:27

He says I go out every day to the shop which signs true at all

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FlissMumsnet · 16/12/2021 20:31

Evening.
We're just bobbing on here to say that we're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged to us we like to link to our web-guides, which we hope may be helpful. If you'd like to, please do feel free to take a look at our [[https://www.mumsnet.com/webguide/domestic-violence Domestic
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ApolloandDaphne · 16/12/2021 20:32

Are you locked in the house?

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dragonfly2012 · 16/12/2021 20:35

No I’m not locked in the house

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Queenie6655 · 16/12/2021 20:37

Lock him out

Get police over

He will kill you

Been there and he sounds like my abuser

This is seriously and very worrying

Aprilx · 16/12/2021 20:38

@dragonfly2012

He says I go out every day to the shop which signs true at all
It doesn’t matter of it is true or not, you are not a prisoner you can go shopping as often as you want.

It also doesn’t matter why he is wearing aftershave.

What matters is that it doesn’t sound like you are safe.

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dragonfly2012 · 17/12/2021 11:04

He got up this morning, barely talking to me . Then he said “so I finished being my 15 year old then ?
“

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dragonfly2012 · 17/12/2021 11:05

Sorry I meant he said so have u finished being my 15 year old then

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Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 17/12/2021 14:17

You need to leave while you still can op...

layladomino · 17/12/2021 17:00

I don't understand what he meant by that. But whatever, he has no right to tell you that you can't buy a gift for a friend. He has no right to object to you going out with a friend. He has no right locking you in the house.

He sounds awful. Please talk to womens aid. Talk to your friend. Start making plans to leave him.

You deserve better, someone who respects you.

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dragonfly2012 · 18/12/2021 12:52

Had my jab done yesterday , feel so unwell . He went to the gym , now with his mum . I’m really fed up

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Bananalanacake · 18/12/2021 12:59

Do you have DC. Who owns the property you live in. I also agree with calling the police and asking them to take you somewhere safe.

Ispini · 18/12/2021 13:08

You are being controlled and dictated to. You have one life, please try to live it in a safe and happy way.
Seriously get out, ask for help and make a plan. You will be listened to and gather evidence.

You are existing in hell, please get help. 💐💐💐

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