I know this sounds like I want to be in touch for other reasons but genuinely, this has come from a place of concern, not with an agenda to get back together.
We broke up as he wasn’t coping well with family problems (his dad is very mentally unwell) and working away during the week. It meant the relationship was barely there. I was very sad to leave him.
It’s been around a month and my (very expensive) coat was left at his house. I intended to ask him to leave it outside at some point so I could collect it. I went to message him a week ago and his last seen on WhatsApp was a really odd time for him. He’s very very specific with sleep and routines and switching phone off etc that it set an alarm bell off in my head. I decided to wait to ask about the coat. Each time I have gone to message his last seen has been at these very odd times. It’s made me think his dad has done something silly or my ex isn’t coping well. Obviously there are other reasons why his WhatsApp last seen could have a change to it, he could even be with someone new, but I just have this very strong feeling that something isn’t right.
I know it probably sounds like I’m looking for a way in. All I can say is it’s not - I loved him i hugely but the relationship was barely there and I don’t want that again. I still care for him deeply and it’s really shaken me to think he might not be ok.
Then again, he’s not reached out to me so maybe doesn’t want or need my help and I should stay away? I don’t know. He’s quite a quiet person and doesn’t have close friends so I know he won’t have anyone to turn to.