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Am I overreacting?

31 replies

Redfaceddad · 16/12/2021 10:56

NC as a bit embarrassed Blush

Over the last year, bubble arrangements during pick-up meant I sometimes swapped small talk with one of the teachers at the kids’ school. We’re both single and similar ages. Unfortunately I developed a bit of a crush, but realising that even if it were reciprocated, asking a teacher on a date would be a big no-no (wouldn’t be surprised if they get hit on by dads all the time!) tried to hide it, not appear like a puppy dog and keep interactions bright and brief.

Bubble arrangements ended, however I found myself still passing her on the way out from drop-off. Given we’d previously been chatting I’d say a quick “Hi” in my way out. Then, after about a week of this, I also asked if the office was open as I needed to drop off something. She told me no, to try in the afternoon and then added:

“I seem to see you a lot without the kids at the moment.”

I laughed, made a quip about them wanting to get into school as quick as possible and left. Inwardly though I was cringing. I’m never hanging about the premises on my own - I’m always either waiting to pick the kids up or dropping off and I’m actually rarely early. I felt that despite my best attempts to hide it and keep respectful, she’d realised I had a bit of a crush and this was her way of warning me off. Ever since I’ve been avoiding eye contact and staying far away.

What do you think? Am I overreacting? Why would she say something like this if it wasn’t along the lines of “I’ve got your number?”

OP posts:
Momijin · 17/12/2021 11:47

I don't see the problem with dating a teacher. Kids are unlikely to have the same teacher twice.

Two consenting adults meeting and finding a spark. Just ask her if she'd like to meet for coffee and then you will have your answer.

Fatgalslim · 17/12/2021 14:02

Weird, woman are always encouraged to ask the guy out on here

OldChinaJug · 17/12/2021 17:55

Teaching is just a job like any other, it’s not special.

I didn't say it was special.

But I'd hate it. There's no way I'd date one of my children's dads. And I wouldn't want to he asked out at work either whatever I did.

layladomino · 17/12/2021 18:58

I don't understand why teachers can't be asked on dates. Before online dating was a thing, the most common people that people met with future DH/DW was through work. If you can't ask someone out at work then that would have been a very different statistic.

A single adult can ask other single adults out. So long as they choose their moment carefully and are prepared for a negative response.

She can say no. No big deal.

Aprilx · 17/12/2021 20:44

Seems like a throwaway comment that doesn’t mean anything. I wouldn’t give it further thought.

Hullabalu · 17/12/2021 20:52

if she liked you,she would make it obvious. If it's not really obvious to you. Just back off because you WILL feel mortified when she gives you the cold shoulder and you will make her feel awkward

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