How do I move on?

[AWonderfulNewName]

I am sorry - probably loads of threads like this.
How do I move on from being in love with someone I can't ever have?
It has been 4 years.
In that time I have divorced, got a new flat, a new job, new hobbies... I am trying to make a happy life for myself. And I am sort of happy.
Covid hasn't helped and being a single mum is making things more difficult but I am not complaining.

I am totally in love with someone I can't have. And can't avoid too much either.
It's exhausting and I just want to move on and, maybe meet someone and have a normal, happy relationship.
How?

You say you're in love with this person but really? Are you? Or are you projecting qualities onto this person?

@Themummilly - maybe you are right. How do I stop it though?

How often and where do you come into contact with this person?
Do they have feelings for you too?

Why can’t you avoid them ? Who is it to you ?

It’s limerance, not love OP.
Start dating - with the intention of meeting new people, having some new experiences, not necessarily finding the love of your life. But this will help you realise there are other potentially interesting men out there, your mind will be occupied, and gradually you’ll take the object of your limerance off the pedestal you put him on.
Worked for me.

Agree with pp. I was coming on to say its limmerance op. It can be completely overwhelming I've experienced it to some degree myself . Read up about it and make informed decisions going forward.

It's so hard.
I can't even imagine going out on a date with anyone else. I compare everyone with the person and no one is as wonderful.

I have a word with myself every so often, and it has got a bit better for me. But it's such a slow process.

Thank you for your replies - I feel less alone and less like a total idiot.