Hi MNs. I need help.
Over the past few years I've become increasingly uncomfortable with my wife's "take" on many things. She says that I'm being too sensitive and I don't much support IRL so I dont know where to turn.
Some of it is seemingly benign - for example she seems to be anxious about the most trivial of things (well I see them as being trivial). I do the food shopping and she says I buy too much food and the food bills are too high and there is too much food in the fridge. Just this week she told me that I can't go food shopping this weekend as she is away and there is enough food already... I explained that I needed to because I have a friend over - but I just don't understand... its only food in a fridge.
A month ago we had nephews and nieces over to stay, and so I said I would go food shopping on the Saturday like I do every week. She said no that wasnt going to happen because she didnt want me bringing the bags of food into the house when the children were there. I feel this to be a bit weird and explained that the kids wont mind and that in households everywhere there will be food and toys and a bit of chaos. But she was adamant - she told me to go on Friday instead but I had to work late. In the end she said "fine, I will go myself" Now she doesnt drive because although she has a licence she is scared. She has to carry the food back by hand and we have had arguments before when she has bought more than she can carry.
So I saw this one coming - I got home from work and was shattered and decided to have a bath. And within 10 minutes she was calling asking for me to come and pick her up. In the end I walked to the supermarket in my dressing gown. I sat her down a few days later and told her that I am not happy. Her response was that I am an uncommitted husband and that my Dad and her brother in law are examples of what a proper husband looks like. In her exact words - my Dad was willing to drive 200 miles to pick up my Mum and I'm not even willing to get out of the bath.
I've lost so many arguments that now I just sit back and take it...but Im thinking deep down that something isnt right here. But I dont know what to do.