Blunt view on what I’m doing wrong? Am I too old now?

[Betterdus]

I’m 36. I don’t think Im particularly unusual, I have friends, decent job etc. Interests, exercise, have therapy. I get dates and second dates, I’ve been in relationships, one or two where we moved in. They ended for practical reasons really, nothing extreme or odd.

I have searched for someone pretty much my whole life. I’ve tried giving up dating and just getting on with life but then I remember ‘you’re not going to meet someone when you’re not actually trying to!’ So then I make the effort, date.

The thing is I do connect with people, I do date and people want to meet me and progress things. I just don’t tend to feel much back. My last relationship I was head over heels with and he just wasn’t keen to drive anything forward at all. It was far too casual so I ended it.

I just don’t know what I’m doing wrong? Am I at an age where I’m not likely to find someone right for me? I’m so fed up.

At this age you're more likely to find someone who wants to settle down I'd have thought

I didn’t meet my DP until I was 35. My colleague met her husband at 39, and had a baby two years later. I think you aren’t too old, you’ve just been unlucky with non-commital men. Don’t give up hope 💐

If you have had serious relationships, where you moved in etc, why do you think you won't find anyone now? You say you've been searching for someone you're whole life, but you've also met people your whole life you have wanted relationships with, and who have wanted it with you. So what defines success? Is it marriage and kids? Or just meeting someone you can get along with (in which case you have had success before, so will likely have this again).

It is just a number game at the end of the day and luck. And sometimes it takes some longer than most.

If look at marriage stats, then your not too old at all ( assuming you want marriage)

www.statista.com/statistics/557962/average-age-at-marriage-england-and-wales/

I've found as you get older the only real options are to settle or stay single. I find accepting that makes it easier.

@CheesyFootballsAreEvil @AmandaHugenkiss @FabulousMrFifty thanks these messages have made me feel a bit brighter!

@todaysdilemma I wanted to be married and have kids and share a home with a partner. Any of these would have been nice by now! I guess I wonder if I will find it again as I felt very lucky to have met my ex and now I just feel it’s all over… I’m older, who would I meet? I do look older too, I’m not as attractive as I once was even two years ago.