Hi, I have a new friend that I have known less than a year and they appear to be in a controlling marriage. They have been married several years and have children. I’m reluctant to give details as it’s not my situation but she is ‘not allowed’ to do some very basic things or go to certain places. Sometimes she will changes plans if her husband doesn’t want her to do things. He turns up a lot when we meet. She seems nervous a lot, although maybe that is not related. She has mentioned being frustrated with the limits he puts on her but she is concerned about his mental health. He won’t seek help. She says it is not his fault and that it has been much worse since covid started. She hasn’t talked much about it but I am concerned for her. I know that I am only seeing a snapshot.
How can I be a good friend to her? I’m not sure if I should ask her about it or whether I should say nothing. Should I be pointing out that it’s seriously not normal? Or would that isolate her more? It seems wrong to pretend like it isn’t an issue but I don’t want to make her feel put on the spot. I would be really grateful for any advice.