Anyone actually got back together after a separation?

[Twoddle]

Am curious ...

How was/is it? Did it last?

Hmm.

When DH and I were living together, pre marriage, I left him and lived on my own for 6 months. We got back together but then things went pear shaped again and I started making plans to move out. I think that was the turning point in our relationship.

I'm pleased to say we worked things out and have now been married for 8 years with two lovely children.
We went to Relate for about 4 months somewhere in the middle of it all and I think that helped quite a lot.

Thanks, mckenzie. That's encouraging.

Good for you.

Anyone else?

Yup, after some really crappy things happened (none of which anyone's fault), we drifted apart and I left DH. Six months later we decided to try again and after a lot of work we are now happy again 4 years and one ds later.

Is there a reason for your asking, Twoddle?

We split up when we had two Dc ,he moved out and was basically an ARSE I also found out after he had gone I was pregnant, I spent two years alone with three dc. He always gave me money and spent time with the DC but me and him hated each other.

Then it just seemed to click back into place again and he moved back in in our defense we were very young at the time and I think we both needed some time out .

I always say it was the best thing taht ever happened to our family we are both more accepting of each other I'm not such a control freak and he isn't a mummys boy

Me and (ex)dp seperated numerous times for periods of 6months+ each time during the past 11years. It always worked brilliantly the times we got back together but after a while, the issues that caused us to seperate became apparent again and we'd seperate again, and so on. We are now seperated and think this time is definately for good (however I thought that every other time) but I now know though that 'if' we were to try again then we would have to seriously look at the problem issues first, probably with relate/counselling, as it's easy to look at the past with rose tinted spectacles and forget the reason and feelings involved when the seperation occured.

My boyfriend and I split up for 3 years in a row! First year was only 1 month, following year was 3 months and final year was 10 months. I had put my house on the market and was fully intending moving away (closer to family), he had been working away. He came back, emailed me then called me and we got back together New Years day and are now married (4 years) with a LO and another on the way. It just took him a long time to mature but is worth it!

Incidently the first spilt was 3 years into the relationship.

My dp and me split up for 6 months too after he cheated on me after we'd been together for 4 years. We owned our own house and at the start of our problems lived in separate rooms, then I made him buy me out and I moved out.

Almost immediately we started dating again since he'd lost all interest in the other woman and after 6 months I moved back in. It was the push he needed to realise the grass isn't always greener on the other side as they say and that he wanted to be with me - 16 months later and with a 2nd LO on the way things couldn't be better even if I still no longer own the house!

Yep, 2 years in a row - I was the ARSE, god do I feel bad about it. Went to relate last year and am the happiest we have ever been. First started seeing him when I was 14 thats 14 years a go so I don't think that's bad.

Grass is not greener on the other side - I learnt the hard way

I hope you are ok. Lifes hard sometimes isn't it. x

A few years ago my parents split up after my dad cheated. They was seperated for 2 years and my dad got married to someone else (bitch) but then my little brother died (he was severly disabled), and that my parents become close again. A few months later my parents decided to give it another go and now they are happily married again

Just caught up on this thread. For some reason - erm, imminent Christmas and fresh separation! - I forgot about it.

Thanks for heartening stories. So never say never, then.

It's been a tough 18 months with now ex-dp, and an even tougher time October onwards. Had some great support on here though.

Thanks all. And Happy New Year! x