Hi all 👋🏻
This maybe a very long post to read but I would like any insight on my situation if possible please , it is complicated to discuss so here it goes....
So for a good few years or so myself and my older (half) sister have been getting distant mainly on her part but also with her and her husband’s family and friends meddling with our relationship doesn’t help.
With their jealousy, lies and completely made up bs and abuse from all of them but they also make out that me being her sister is a vacancy which can be easily filled with themselves and is always up for offer 😐😕
But over the past year or so and most of all this year has been completely the most destroying of our relationship, to explain some of this is to go back to autumn 2020 when it was her husband’s milestone birthday, myself and my household family members have had to deal with a lot of things going on so decided to take advantage of the peaceful and calmness which resulted in us not going to the party and also I was unwell at the time (non-Covid related) but due to guidelines then also decided not to attend for that reason. Let’s say her husband is not the best person to get along with and has an annoyingly massive ego.
I do have poor mental health as they also know and the day after the party I received a lot of abuse from them both for not attending which lead to me having a emotional breakdown due to the abuse.
Following onwards from this they both told other family members that are related to us both that if I was invited to any family events/celebrations they would not attend and if they were to be invited to these then I wasn’t to be invited even though I am more related to the family members then the both of them. Also family members birthdays from autumn 2020 that were before mine next birthday was celebrated by them and all family members birthdays after mine 2021 was celebrated by them while mine was boycotted and my sister decided two months before my birthday for 2021 to delete me from all social media with no reason at all.
They both also joined in with their friends and family members’ jealously, lies and bs .
Moving onto autumn 2021 when it was her, my sister’s milestone birthday with all that has been going on and having to spend time with all those people in the same place having abuse face to face, for the sake of my wellbeing and the distant between myself and her I decided not to attend her surprise party which would of made her very pleased anyway.
I let her husband know this in the lead up to her birthday, just when I thought I couldn’t get anymore abuse and etc I was so so wrong ☹️
So with dealing with the most horrendous abuse and etc I once again had another emotional breakdown.
They also now making more of other family members distant from myself especially this close to Christmas just for being myself and being civil with everyone, I don’t understand why 🤷🏼♀️
Just want it all to be over with and move on to a more positive life with good family relationships just stuck with what to do and where to start especially without effecting my mental health if possible.
Any thoughts and advice welcome,
Thank you for reading 🙂