He is giving me signs he is going to cancel our date. help?

[toostubbornformyowngood]

If a guy tells me he feels sick the day before our date, should I cancel before I think he might?

back story..

I met this guy on the weekend, first impressions, good guy. very attractive and hilarious and we got along extremely well, we ended up going home around 6:30 am, he walked home and put my number in his phone. we have been speaking but not constant which I like as im not a very needy person and we all love a little bit of chase lets be honest. however, in my view, he has being blowing cold over the past day, he has since messaged say that he is feeling unwell, we are due to go on a date tomorrow and he has been in bed all day sick today.

apart of me, hopes that he is sick and not looking to cancel, however I do not know this guy so who am I to say if he is lying?

my question, should I cancel in the date in hopes that we can re arrange when he is feeling better? or leave it and he may cancel it? or leave it and we could actually go on the date?

I'd cancel on the basis that he's sick and may possibly have covid.

Why dont you give him an out eg,

'looking forward to tomorrow but if your feeling sick we can postpone?

When I met DH, he was supposed to ring at 7pm to confirm where we were meeting up, he didn't ring and I had convinced myself he was taking the piss out of me. He rang a couple of hours later apologising for not ringing but his nan has just passed away that afternoon and he was with his mum.

Give him a chance, there is a stomach bug going about

I would want to postpone if I were you, don't take the chance of catching his bug, if he really likes you he won't pass up the opportunity.

I wouldn't cancel but I would be waiting for his cancel message. He may genuinely be sick but you say he's blowing cold? It's amazing how many guys get sick, have sick or a sick pet or something rather than be honest. I would give him the benefit of the doubt but see how keen he is to rearrange, if he's vague about this then move on.

I'd be cancelling it myself. I don't want to go on a date with someone that was laid up sick the day before. Heck, I'd want to put it off for at least a week. And in these times, see a negative covid test too.

I'd be cancelling it myself. I don't want to go on a date with someone that was laid up sick the day before. Heck, I'd want to put it off for at least a week. And in these times, see a negative covid test too.

I did message and asked for a rain check if he wasn’t feeling any better. He said he would see how he feels tomorrow. I’m definitely not going ti chase a guy! But I will give him the benefit of the doubt also! Thank you guys!!

Even if he doesn't want to cancel, do you want to risk a date with someone who has very very recently been ill? Especially this close to Christmas when you'll likely see other people in your life too?

It’s not the Covid I am concerned about. We were snogging each other’s faces off when we met so that’s not the concern.

Lol at wanting a negative test 🤣

Lol at wanting to see a negative test 😅

@toostubbornformyowngood

It’s not the Covid I am concerned about. We were snogging each other’s faces off when we met so that’s not the concern.

I've got a horrible bug at the moment - not covid but pretty rubbish. If he's genuinely been ill, you're likely to catch it if you're snogging him tomorrow. Wouldn't you rather delay it?! If he's genuinely been ill, he's being a bit selfish wanting to see you and pass on the bug. Which would make me think he hasn't actually been ill 🤔

He says he's ill. Give him the benefit of the doubt. Leave your phone alone and let him message when he's better.

I will absolutely give him the benefit of the doubt! I’m just trying not to over think it! Thank you guys!

Did the date happen @toostubbornformyowngood?

Did he recover?

I suggested we rain check, to which he agreed as he wasn’t feeling better, he rescheduled for Friday! Fingers read 🤞🏽

Fingers crossed 🤞🏽

Hope it goes well on Friday

Best outcome really