First date yesterday. Both early 30s - my engagement ended early this year, his marriage ended 4 years ago. Met online a few weeks ago and swapped messages and a phone call - seemed to get on well.
Got on well in person, lots of laughs and things to chat about. Ended up talking about past relationships (already I'm thinking this is a bit heavy..) and he spoke (at length) about how he loved being married, expected to have kids by now, how he tried to reconcile with EXW before divorce. I asked if he was over his ex and he paused! Then I asked what he wanted from someone and after a bit of waffling he said he wanted a relationship which would help him move on with his life.. I said it would be difficult for a potential new partner to not feel like they were having to live up to his EXW.
Writing this down I think I've realised it's potentially a bit red flag-y? The conversation about the ex lasted a lot longer than I anticipated - I was hoping for something like "yep the marriage ended because of XYZ, I'm happy with my life now and feel ready for a new relationship".. not the warts and all!
Haven't arranged next date yet but feel it would be a bad move. Would love to hear others views? Thanks!