Anyone else find DH/DP irritating post period/when ovulating?

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Hi everyone
I love my partner- I do, (our relationship is v new- 1 yr) but after my period ends and around my ovulation I can't stand him. I get irritated and depressed by the same things every month; him leaving a mess, dirty kitchen, his laugh, his family, his kids, when he curses, his pets, how he drives- It's bizarre because outside of this time I look at him in awe and and my heart melts and I think to myself "This is it, I want to marry him". But those days after my period I think the complete opposite "I need to end this"

Now I hear that PMS is crazy, my PMS is accompanied by general irritability but what I am talking about here is amplified . I feel so relieved when my period finally arrives, as painful as it is but emotionally I am bak to being me. This period of cycle often comes with lots of doubt and self criticism, negative self talk and anxiety. I have to remind myself that I should not make rash decisions after my period because it may not be me but my mood and hormones.

This can't be PMS if it's after my period is over right?

I know I sound unhinged here and my moods swing badly but does anyone here have any similar experiences?

I don’t have any advice but just wanted to say that I am EXACTLY the same during my period. I just sob, I feel intense rage at things that wouldn’t normally bother me, normally directed at my poor husband. Every other week we are the best of friends and have an amazing relationship. I struggle not to make rash decisions and I want to curl up in a ball and not leave the house until it’s over.

Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone! Xx

Yep , mine swings terribly. Wait until you reach peri menopause age 🤣🤣

Gosh - that does sound extreme. If you're feeling that way during ovulation as well, I'd question if you two are compatible on a genetic level.

I could easily leave my partner (and my job) every month for about 3 days. then after that I adore her (and my job!) and am so glad I didn't!
I hate it.. but I'm just glad I've learnt to ignore any feelings I have in those few days.

I feel like this about DH. For the first two weeks after my period everything is great. But for the week leading up to my period I resent his mess, his endless gym kit laundry, his stinky trainers in the hallway, his 45 minute shits locked in the bathroom, his coffee grounds all over the kitchen counter, so much that I actually want to divorce him.

I could easily have started your post. When I’m ovulating I want to climb DH like a tree, and I’m assuming due to pheromones or something, the feeling is mutual. We always joke that he knows when I’m ovulating before I do! But then one week a month he can do no right, poor bugger!

My mum had a horrendous time during menopause (and my poor Dad got the brunt of that; how he bore it I’ll never know, he had the patience of a saint). I fear for our marriage when it’s my turn for the menopause!!

exactly the same here. Currently approaching perimenopause, it's getting worse for sure in that the happier days are becoming less and less each month whilst the highly irritated days are becoming more prevalent. It's very challenging..

Yes! I could easily have left my DH about 3 days before my period. It was worse every third month too. My GP prescribed me citalopram which, although is technically an anti depressant, helped stabilise my hormones. Definitely speak to a female GP if you can though because my male GP basically told me to suck it up!

I am the same. My husband can be quite annoying but I'm pretty laid back usually and don't let it bother me too much but when I'm on the period everything he does irritates me! He does this thing where he just "hovers". He will stand up in the middle of the room like he's waiting to do something and when I'm PMSing it does my head in. I have zero patience for his silly jokes, jovial pokes and tickles. He makes it worse by commenting I must be on my period when I rise to it. Like you say, every other day of the week I am so in love with this man. He is such a lovely guy and can't do enough for me. He's my best friend. I just can't stand the sight of him when I'm on my period lol.

Magnesium.

I wish someone had told me this when I was 12.

A good quality magnesium supplement about a week before my predicted mood swing phase.

YES!! But now am in peri-menopause it's not just during PMT time.

Picking up HRT latches today and thankfully out for lunch with colleagues as have been wfh side by side since March 20 and on the verge of killing him/me

No couples should spend this much time together (and even worse he doesn't seem to need time alone, I genuinely feel like I'm suffocating)

I thought it was common but more after ovulation.. my OH is extremely attractive to me the first two weeks but after ovulation it slowly drops until i get to where im getting irritated.. i heard somewhere its a thing too

I get like this for a few days leading up to my period. Could happily leave him and just want to be left alone, every little thing bugs the hell out of me. Rest of month fine. Around ovulation I am completely loved up and idolise him: think it’s normal to find them more attractive around ovulation as Mother Nature’s way of persuading you to have sex during that time. Doesn’t really work very well if they drive you nuts at that time!

@LefttoherownDevizes

YES!! But now am in peri-menopause it's not just during PMT time.

Picking up HRT latches today and thankfully out for lunch with colleagues as have been wfh side by side since March 20 and on the verge of killing him/me

No couples should spend this much time together (and even worse he doesn't seem to need time alone, I genuinely feel like I'm suffocating)

Relate to this! Since starting HRT earlier this year I am not irritated daily and it has gone back down to a few days per month. Peri is awful - I spent a good couple of years wishing most people around me would just f off, then f off some more! 😬

Absolutely. DH is always able to guess when it's coming up to period time, because he can feel the change. Sometimes when it's been really bad, he mentioned it felt like I hated him. That makes me sad.
As above though, magnesium definitely helps.