What else other than grey rock??

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I’ve gone grey rock with my exdh, father of my children, after two weeks he’s still trying to get a rise out of me!! How do I stop getting sucked in??

Grey Rock isn't a quick fix, it's something you will likely have to practice forever.

Keep going.

If it takes a long time to get a rise out of you, and you eventually give it to him, then all you’ve done is trained him to keep it up for at least two weeks.

You have to play a very, very long game.

I definitely got sucked in again this morning!! He’s so bloody righteous and has zero self awareness!! I honestly thought he would just move on! Is there no end in sight? Wish I could chuffing block him!

Be the most boring person in every interaction and he will eventually have to find a new supply. I agree with @WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa

You can block him. Only communicate by email. And only respond to anything regarding DC/legalities.

Many moons ago when my ex used to give me grief on the phone I would continually hang up on him for a few weeks. Made it clear I would not stand for verbal abuse. It took a while but it worked eventually.

It takes time. Default answers. I'm busy. Can you put that in an email. Etc.

And don't respond to anything immediately. He will get bored. The only things that need to be replied to quickly are timings over the children. And I even had that set in stone. He had half an hours grace and then we went out.

It's been 4 years and I still give little more than a yes/no. Or ok reply to most things. Keep it polite and I try to avoid apologising. For example if he wants to change contact days and I had plans. I just say that doesn't work for me. and don't get drawn in.

It's exhausting, and draining, but stick with it. As others have said, this needs to be your approach with him forever more. Don't worry about getting sucked back in - it happens. Just reset, and start over again

Grey rock is so effective, and really is the best thing. Arguing with a pathalogocal liar who rewrites history is absolutely pointless.

Whenever you're tempted look at this...

Mine did this for 5 years..and we had no ties..it can be a long hard slog.

As others have said, persist with 'grey rock', some people will interpret any emotional reaction as having feelings for them or about them.
Also, you don't need to reply instantly to them, take your time to come up with a neutral answer, um and ah to fill the gap if you have to. Pushing for an quick answer is a great way to push the other person into a decision (or emotion) they would not normally have made (hence it's use in sales).
"I'll have to think about that", "Can't say right now", "I'll ring you back", this can put you back in control of the conversation, you contact him when you are ready.