My oh and I have been together about ten years. For a number of years we were madly in love and things were great. We began to struggle when our child (who has health needs) was born. We also had I'll parents and both had stressful jobs. My oh couldn't cope and threw himself into work leaving me to manage. My mh massively declined and I had a breakdown. After that I became a sahm which helped and things improved. Even so my oh does very little interms of family life but I learnt to manage. Since then oh mh has declined and he struggles now, when he's with us he is alway unhappy/stressed/angry. He's obsessed with his physical health and spends hours in his home gym working out, making healthy meals and protein shakes and reading up on health. We recently got a dog who's a bit of a nightmare and we are trying to train so there are times when I need him to help either with our child or the dog as I struggle to manage both. And also need him to work with dog as training needs to be consistent. This has made him more angry and stressed as he is use to me doing everything. (One of reasons we don't have more children) for past few years I've always tried to bring him up, make him feel better and I've encouraged him to get help with mh which he doesn't really deal with. Lately though I'm sick of being only one who tries, he never compliments me, initiates sex, plans anything to do together. He never wants to do anything not with me or friends who he has kind of lost contact with as he never makes effort. After a bad day recently I told him he could leave if he wants he got upset and couldn't understand where I'm coming from but when I talked about our relationship he said we aren't as close but he feels a relationship is worth "persevering " with. I asked if he would fight for our relationship and he said he doesn't have the energy. I don't know what to do I can't see anything changing do I keep trying or move on? It would be hard on our child if we split up and I'm not sure how my oh would cope. But I want to be happy.