First day back OLD....and already fed up!

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In a moment of madness I signed back up to OLD last night. Well! It's the same old faces, same old profiles and same old hi! Type messages coming through. I've tried to put up a really positive profile with very honest pics and already I'm fed up with it. Shall I just cancel and forget the whole thing again?

Up to you? You must know it's a minefield, never easy. Depends entirely on what you want and if you're willing to be patient and wade through all the dickheads.

Lots of frog kissing is to be expected.
Why did you think OLD dating became different since you tried it before?
You can try to meet people in some other ways - sign up for hobbies? Join clubs? Etc

I was hoping a break might have helped relieve my cynicism about men? Also helping some new members might have joined?

I do find a lot of hobbies and clubs are filled with lots of lovely ladies also looking to meet men.

Totally hear you on OLD. It's so boring! I find it so hard to engage with anyone when I'm feeling like this about it but maybe try not having too many chats on the go at once and continually swiping- maybe just one or two chats at a time: quick convo, meet for a drink or coffee, if you're not feeling it, have another look? I find having too many conversations saps my energy and stops me actually giving them a chance.

Well, it’s the word we live in.
Convert your cynicism into pragmatism and approach it as a project. Don’t take it too seriously or expect too much.
People do manage to OLD and meet someone they like.
I presume you are signed up to different apps, not just one?
Also - i understand there are some paid-for match markers. Not sure if they are worth it, but might be something to look at?

Yes on several apps and it's the same faces and profiles on them all and from when I started two years ago! I took a break for most of 2021 but it's the same profiles mainly.

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I find it hard to get to the date stage as so many men seem hopeless at chatting! One word answers and me asking all the questions. It's no wonder some of them have been on there for two years.

Maybe try a completely different dating app/website?

You might see more new faces that way.

When I was OLD I also did find that the majority of the men were hopeless...I gave up on it as it just did not work for me.

Some of them have quite decent profiles, nice pics but try and engage with them, nope! The conversation is dead even if they initiate messaging, just one word messages.

Yeah, I don't entertain dead end answers either. It's so odd! I'd usually open on bumble just saying nice to match, and asking what they've been up to etc (I know not the most original but I'd open a convo with it in real life. If they have more to go on in their bio I might tailor it a bit). The number of men who reply with 'I've been at work' or 'I've been moving the lawn' and don't ask me back or continue the conversation. I'm not doing a survey, I'm trying to initiate a conversation!

Yes you get a boring mundane answer but no question back to keep the conversation going! I asked one seemingly pleasant guy what he likes to do at the weekend and his literal reply was "check on my late mothers friends" what am I supposed to do with that? I left that one there!

So glad to hear of others in the same boat ! I joined two dating sites about 6 weeks ago and am starting to find it soul destroying. I had one date 2 weeks ago, no spark unfortunately. Since then, a big fat zero. I must have hit "like" a thousand times but never get anything back.....I guess I'm just not a catch. I've also noticed that a lot of guys seem to be contacted by women who are just after ONS or their money, they put it in their profile that they don't want to be contacted by these types of women, weird, I never knew that kind of thing happened on dating sites but I guess it does. What to do !!

I do wonder what the guys expectations are on these sites? Some of the most unattractive men with very bland profiles and long lists of demands, are they expecting a supermodel?

I was the same, I was on and off for a few years and always the same faces and boring messages that never went anywhere. You finally get to a date stage then a massive letdown when you don't click.

It's a numbers game though. I did eventually find my DP on there, he'd only been signed up a day so he didn't have to go through the same pain I did!