Mil from hell

[Teafor3plz]

Hi, i have a MIL from hell. She’s loud, obnoxious, milks the benefit system yet seems to have everything, and is generally not a nice person to be around in my opinion.
She detests me, has told me numerous times my husband is only with me for money, she picks and chooses when she will send a card for my kids birthdays etc. I then decided after a huge row to ban her from our lives and my kids lives as she is poisonous and I don’t want her near my kids. She also lives with a “binge drinker” not an alcoholic apparently!
Am I wrong to not want this negative influence in my kids life, surely if someone is so vile to me and I right not to want her near my kids?
Husband doesn’t agree and as soon as I allowed her to visit the first time she came she did exactly what I asked she didn’t do, she was loud, marched round my house without asking, kept telling my kids her oh is their Granda, which really confused them 😡
I just can’t cope with this woman near us but I feel like husband isn’t agreeing now
She also asks my husband for money, and has taken money of him before and we are not at all rich! 🙈

She doesn't sound nice, but your real issue is your husband particularly if he doesn't agree with you.

Sorry, just to say I don't think you're wrong.

Put
Your kids first . My family arw toxic and i pulled out when my daughter was 11 but sadly at 22 shes in therapy- the damage was done :( get you all out . Hes weak but you need to stay strong for them

Thanks for replying everyone. It’s hard, I’m seriously considering whether it’s worth staying together, the only thing that stops me is having to share the kids and knowing they will be around her and her environment and I can’t protect my kids from that 😢

Staying for the sake of the children does not always work out at all well, it places a heavy burden on the kids.

If your husband is a weak man amdwet lettuce when it comes to his mother he does not have his children’s interest at heart. He may want to have a relationship with her because of his fear, obligation and guilt but it does not mean that you or your kids have to follow. If you were to separate from your husband I would formalise all access through the court and a contact centre. Document his mother’s behaviour via a paper trail.

get rid of him and her

It’s so hard to know what to do. I couldn’t live with her in my life or my kids. I don’t trust her or like her. She’s all over his ex, even running a wee sideline business for her!! I struggle massively with her comments over the years that he’s only with me for money. She has also told people I know that I am so awful for not letting her near my kids. They obvs only know what she tells them 🙈
Just sick of being pestered by husband about her, and he’s now threatened that if we split he can take kids where he wants 😢