DP read all my private messages with friend

[Lxi29]

Long story short me and DP are at breaking point at the minute, he is emotionally abusive, narssastistic and controlling and his (huge) family is toxic and can be a bunch of bullies. I have no family and 1 friend who lives hours away and I have ranted to her when everything has got too much to get it off my chest

This includes MIL horrible, toxic behaviour, when DP has been controlling, and basically whenever I've felt like I couldn't take it anymore she was there to listen and just be there for me

During summer I fell asleep and DP went through my phone, saw everything about me slagging MIL and him off to my friend. Privately, she won't pass this onto anyone else. Hes held it over my head ever since and is now threatening to "expose" me so his whole family will gang up on me . I feel so alone

Leave him.

Yes - Leave him! Why would you want to be with someone like this?

You know what?

I think he won't.

Because he knows it would end things and he's a pathetic little man who will implode without you.

Tell him you meant every word and to share it with the world. And that it is over.

Jesus! Please walk away from this situation! He's an arsehole and you need to get away from him. I know you feel very alone at the moment, but you are so much stronger than you think you are, and for your own sake, you need to get out of this relationship.

This is horribly toxic. If your best friend described your situation you would tell her to leave immediately.

Exposing… who cares. Get out.

Run.

Even if he tells your MIL you don’t like her- so what? You don’t. And you don’t have to see her again if you get rid of him.

Of course leave.

But if you won't or can't, ask him if any of it was untrue. Just quietly and wait for his answer.

Do not further remain a prisoner of his emotional blackmail. Such is a crime.

How can you be helped here into leaving your abuser?. At the very least please contact Women’s Aid.

Run for the hills

He said he will leave after Xmas. We've had an argument tonight because he wants to having the DC xmas afternoon with MIL family and even though I know DC will be happy I feel so so sad it feels like he is trying to use them against me. I suppose I'm looking for anyone whos been in a similar position with very little support themselves but DP/Ex DP has an awfully toxic family. I feel sad about being tied to these people for the forseeable as my dc are so young

Do you have children with this man? If not, leave him asap. If you have children, this is still a relationship which is harmful so work to leave safely with potential future contact/shared parenting in mind.

@Lxi29

He said he will leave after Xmas. We've had an argument tonight because he wants to having the DC xmas afternoon with MIL family and even though I know DC will be happy I feel so so sad it feels like he is trying to use them against me. I suppose I'm looking for anyone whos been in a similar position with very little support themselves but DP/Ex DP has an awfully toxic family. I feel sad about being tied to these people for the forseeable as my dc are so young

Yes I bloody have.

He won't leave after Xmas.

Its bullshit designed to have you on eggshells for four weeks.

Why don't you leave???

This is nonsense he is saying. Do you not see that??

I am telling you what I am telling you precisely because I have exactly been there. Twice.

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