How To Stop Wanting Love

[Vasana]

Has anyone here never been loved by another human being before and been able to stop wanting love from another human being?

Because this is my situation. Everyone says all you need is self love. But usually the people saying this have been loved in their life, either currently, in the past, or by parents or other family members. I've never been loved by a single human before. Terrible abuse as a child, and abused as an adult. I've never stopped hoping that somebody would love me one day. But I'm realising the desire to be loved is causing me a lot of emotional pain and suffering. So I was wondering if there is anyone here who is happy and never been loved by another human being before? Is this possible? Looking at this from a spiritual or Buddhist perspective hasn't helped me reconcile this idea either. If it isn't possible, then I don't really see any point to me being on this earth, as I am very sad everyday.

I think self love is important but it is not unreasonable to want to be loved. I think we all want that. Being a human is about how we relate to others. I'm sorry to hear you have had a really difficult time...I think it is great to pursue love and that can be through friendships or romance. But no (wo)man is an island. X

I think there's more to life then romantic love. Seek love in yourself, friendships, animals.

I think we all want to be loved and have someone who wants to be there for us. Also to equally give that love back.
I think worrying about it will make it harder for you to achieve this. I’m not in a relationship and I’m so bad at human interaction, I can’t see me getting into one again! Sometimes I feel really sad about it and other times I think about all the positive things I can do instead.