he wants a divorce, but i do not

[themarwah]

hello there,
this is my very fisrt post .
i have no one to talk to,

i am 30 years old, he is 34. we have been married for 6 years and have a girl 4 years old

for the past year and a half, my husband has been living in his own bubble, he keeps saying that he is not happy in this marriage.

that was shocking for me as i thought we were happily married.
he asked for a break and i moved out to my parients with my daughter.
after 3 weeks he asked me to move back saying he can't love without us !
and i did ..

couple of months later, things went back to square one !
he is saying that he is not happy, always stressed and feels like dying !
everytime i ask him if i should do something, he keeps saying that there is nothing wrong with me and that i am perfect and even himself cant ask for more
however, he is not happy.

this was shocking, and heart breaking for me
i started to feel sad and helpless all the time, he is slipping away, living in his bubble
does not care about me or my feelings
and now he is talking about a divorce

i know our life is not prefect, but i want to fix things not to end things !!
he does not want to fix anything, he says that there is not anything that we can do

the best thing for him, me and our daughter is to end this marriage

i am heart broken, lost and sad

now i know that i cant stay with a man who does not want me in his life, but why am i so sad and crying all the time ??

how to evercome this ?
how to evercome that all the dreams and plans i had for us is not vanished !!

i need help, but not sure who can help me

For posters saying the OP should just go home, you do realise that if the country she is going to is a signatory to The Hague Convention then it will be viewed as kidnapping if her husband challenges the move. For those smart arses saying she should just say she’s going on holiday, that will not fly in court. The OP’s best bet is to get her H’s explicit permission to permanently relocate back to her home country.

‘Go home’ doesn’t mean ‘go home to move there permanently’...

I said go home to get herself some support from her parents until she feels stronger. She’s allowed to visit her family.

He sounds depressed to me and maybe he doesn't want to involve you and your dd in it. Have you spoken about him getting some help?

@HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule

‘Go home’ doesn’t mean ‘go home to move there permanently’...

I said go home to get herself some support from her parents until she feels stronger. She’s allowed to visit her family.

The father needs to give permission for the child to go too though. The airport staff can (and often do) ask for the written permission of the other parent. It’s a dangerous move.

I've travelled with my kids without their father many times and never been asked.