Would I be unreasonable to go nc with mother ?

[Babyg1995]

OK first off I'm not good at wording so please no nasty comments about that

I used to be very close to my mother as a child but as I got older she got more controlling I was never aloud friends over would read my diary's hated every boyfriend I had .
I'm now 30 have 3 children she has upset me so many times over the years from calling me evil the day I gave birth to me saving up for a necklace she wanted only to be told the chain was too short this broke my heart at the time this was 10 years ago fast forward to now there's been alot of the same kind of thing but not as much in the last 5 years she looks after my youngest son 1yr old while I work 3 hours a day she offered this but I have to listen to her self pity 5 days a week she won't leave the house at all unless someone takes her in there car she's 60 no major health issues last week I asked if she could come to mine to watch the youngest she refused and said to bring him to hers which I did as it was a doctors appointment for an ecg after the appointment she asked me to go and get her some shopping I felt like saying no after her refusing to come to mines while I was at my appointment she also refused to have my older children while I had my youngest I had to give birth alone.
All the shit over the years has just built up and I can't take it anymore would I be unreasonable just to cut contact and put my dc in nursery?

A good rule of thumb is that if a parent or relative is too toxic/difficult or otherwise too bloody batshit for YOU to deal with, its the same deal for your children as well.

She was not a good parent to you when you were growing up and she is a frankly crap example of a grandparent to your children. She has not changed since your childhood and she will emotionally harm your children in not too dissimilar ways as to how you've been harmed and otherwise abused by her. Keep her well away from your children; I would think you only allowed a relationship to start with because you hoped that she would somehow behave better this time around. As you have seen all too clearly this has not happened.

Put your child in nursery and at the very least find alternative childcare. Your mother is not an emotionally healthy person to be at all around.

Have a read too and consider posting on the current "well we took you to Stately Homes" thread on these Relationships pages and read "Toxic Parents" by Susan Forward.

Thank you so much for your reply I really needed to hear thar you are so right I called my local nursery today but the lady never got back to me I'm praying she does over the weekend as I know I can't go back there now ever its just too much .