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Dreaming0111 · 10/12/2021 07:36

Is it possible for POF to show an online active status on a profile 2yrs old? Or would the person with the profile have had to purposefully log in more recent than that for an automatic online status to appear?
Boyfriend of 2yrs is showing online active and he swears it’s just his old account he never completely deleted but just put in sleep mode when we became exclusive. A friend was on the site and ran across his profile. I would have never know if she hadn’t seen it.

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TwatInTinFoil · 10/12/2021 07:57

That's rubbish. If he hid his profile he wouldn't appear anyway!

Have to be logged in recently to appear online.

BlueCupOrangeCup · 10/12/2021 09:15

It's a shame that he has probably had enough heads up to tidy his story and delete recent conversations from the past two years.

I would have taken the screen shot to him and asked to see the app/content of that app on his phone there and then.

(And yes, If I was on the receiving end of this I'd be OK with that request from my partner given the screenshot in their possession!)

AndTime · 10/12/2021 09:16

I think he is lying to you and actively using his account.

Sonaftersonafterson · 10/12/2021 09:45

Doesn't work like that on POF... I know the site well. he is lying.

SimoneSimone · 10/12/2021 10:11

Leave it for a bit, then make a fake profile and start messaging him

Munchkinpumpkin · 10/12/2021 20:18

Of course hes lying come on

dumplings1 · 10/12/2021 21:52

You can only see online status if they are online, a bit like WhatsApp you see them on/offline, if he snoozed his account you wouldn't see it as it would be hidden.
A bit rubbish to snooze it anyway, if you're in relationship you just delete the profile permanently.

Mermaidwaves · 10/12/2021 22:14

He's definitely been online, I know that site well (unfortunately) if you hide your account it doesnt show up publically or in searches, it will only show to those who you have messaged first. If it's not hidden but not been used in two years it wouldn't come up as active either, it only shows up when someone has been online.

I'm afraid to say he's lying and is looking on there.

Inthesameboatatmo · 11/12/2021 17:37

He's been on it to show active status. He's spinning you a yarn op don't fall for it. Kick him out . Good luck .

immersivereader · 11/12/2021 17:39

Lying. Do what a pp said, wait a bit, do a fake profile, message him for 'no strings sex'

Thefuturestory · 11/12/2021 17:40

He’s lying. Sorry but if he’s lying about this he’ll be lying about other stuff.

Treacletoots · 11/12/2021 17:47

Oh dear. Yep he's totally been on there sorry OP. You've two options. Dump him now. Or create a fake profile and catch him at it, if you really need to see it for yourself.

Either way, please don't believe his bullshit. He's a cheat and a lier. You can do without that.

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