He went to Australia!

[Leonardo87]

Hey guys

I had an amazing facetime date with a 38/M last week after the facetime date he immediately said I need to see you face to face before I go home to Australia at the weekend - can we fit in a coffee date. I was so attracted to him I said Yes!

(We met each other through a mutual friend)

We went for coffee date and so many sparks - I ended up smooching him back at his flat all clothes off and had sex. It was amazing. I had a nap at his and then went back home to meet my friends.

He sent me a selfie video from the airport and a couple of videos since - not overly messaging but the frequency has gone down definately. He was messaging a couple of times a day and now once every 24/48 hours.

He said after the sex he was keen to see me when I get back.

I am getting scared that the lack of message frequency means he is losing interest but I think I am just being mental. My rational brain tells me has gone home to Australia and he will be busy for the next few weeks until he is back in early January.

He told me he is looking to settle down and start a family, I do not think he is the type to mess around if I am honest. Always had LTR.

Please someone snap me out of the overthinking phase!

Blimey. You sound very, very young.

Yes, you need to take a deep breath. Unless he’s stuck in hotel quarantine he’ll be seeing his family and friends for the first time in a long time, he will likely have brutal jet lag, and he’s in a totally different time zone.

Sorry, this is going to sound judgemental, you face timed last week, met in person (for the first time) this week, had sex and now he's gone off the boil. I think he got what he wanted, which wasn't a relationship.

Whoa! Steady on OP! Come up for a bit of air for a moment. You had a quick fling and he is enjoying himself in Australia. Just back off and get control of your feelings and wish him a great time. Of course his communication is going to slacken off he is doing other stuff and the time change is massive. Get on with your life, dont rely on this person to fill you with joy. Anyone can say they want to settle down and have a family until they say "with you" dont think you are in his long term plans. Go out and date others around this festive season and enjoy yourself, if he comes back to you then great, if not, then you haven't lost anything x

@Hadalifeonce

Sorry, this is going to sound judgemental, you face timed last week, met in person (for the first time) this week, had sex and now he's gone off the boil. I think he got what he wanted, which wasn't a relationship.

Thanks for bringing me back down to Earth with a thud 😂

Australia has been closed for almost 2 years - he would not have seen family and friends for almost two years. The fact he is messaging you at all is a good thing. BUT you went on two dates and now are talking a long term relationship....you might start freaking him out soon.

@ittakes2

Australia has been closed for almost 2 years - he would not have seen family and friends for almost two years. The fact he is messaging you at all is a good thing. BUT you went on two dates and now are talking a long term relationship....you might start freaking him out soon.

This is why I needed you guys to bring me back down to Earth - so I do not mention anything to him whatsoever to scare him off 😂

Slow your roll, OP. Let him do his thing and be with his people. See how it goes when he gets back.

🌺🌼 Thanks guys 🌼🌺