Hey all, would really appreciate some insight on this.
I am 25 (f) and Ex is 27 (m).
My ex and I ended it in June 2021, it was a messy breakup. The short story is that he was leaving me to get back with his ex from some years ago, understandably I was broken.
In the last couple of months, I have been working so incredibly hard on myself, and in this short time, I have made HUGE improvements. I would be lying if I said I didn't think about him every day as there is a lot to remind me of him BUT I don't miss him anymore and it feels amazing.
I don't use Snapchat often, however, I still have the app on my phone and use it from time to time with friends. For anyone unaware, Snapchat is an app in which you can instantly send pictures/messages with people who you have as a contact on the app. There is also a section in which any pictures you have taken, you can save and access through the app, these are private unless posted.
I received a notification today that "ex" had added me to the app. After thinking about it, I accepted. Shamefully, there was a part of me that wanted to hear what he had to say for himself.
He had sent me a message which read "please change it back?" I didn't know what he was talking about. So the urge took over and I asked what he meant and after a very long back and forth of him playing games he finally revealed that he meant my Snapchat password. I only changed this the other week because I had been "logged out" and to find out it was because he had been logging in to see what I have been up to for the past 6 months has really freaked me out.
He admitted he had been snooping from time to time and how he "remembers" my passwords so god knows what else he has been looking at too?.
This is coming from a man that also confirmed he is in a relationship with the ex who he left me for. It all seems very bizarre and I can't make sense of it. He told me it's good to see I am happy and better than before, I can only assume he means how broken I was after our break up.
He repeatedly apologized for his behavior for what happened during our relationship, once it had ended, and for massively overstepping personal boundaries by using my passwords.
I stuck to my guns and he tried to lure me in with some sweet talk which I said I don't want to hear. He kept telling me that "he can't help himself with how I make him feel" but at this point, I was very done with the conversation. At one point, he even tried to turn the conversation to one of a sexual nature and how he "misses" it with me.
The conversation is over now and I came away from it better than I had expected. I had anticipated pining for him again but if anything it had concreted how well I have done in the past 6 months and that it was for the very best. I am still in a little shock over the Snapchat account though, he didn't seem to realize how alarming this is. I obviously did not give him my password which he genuinely seemed let down about.
If anyone has some insight into what the hell he is playing at and his thought process behind this, it would be really appreciated.
Thank you so much.