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Sunday123456 · 08/12/2021 11:15

Ok so i need a bit of advice, my wife's ex boyfriend keeps texting, she doesn't reply, she's blocked him on FB, messenger & his mobile number so hope fully no more will come through??? unless he finds some other medium of communication???
But my dilemma is that we've been married for 7 yrs and he has intermittently been sending random messages during this period one or 2 a year, which have all been innocuous. However the last was at 1:30 am this Saturday night, nothing suggestive just random shite.
We very occasionally see him in a local pub, my wife & I now point blank ignore him & he hasn't approached us.
Do I let him suffer in silence as he is a DH, or have a word that no more messages are to be sent (followed by a flying head but : ).
P.s he is married WTF......???

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Signalstation · 08/12/2021 11:16

Is he trying to be friendly? Are they like memes he is sending?

HaggisBurger · 08/12/2021 11:18

Just leave it be. If your wife has blocked him on everything now he can’t continue to message.

IncompleteSenten · 08/12/2021 11:18

If he can't take the hint that she isn't interested in his friendship when she blocks him on an and ignores him in RL then she needs to tell him to stop contacting her and leave her alone or she'll take it further.

HoardingSamphireSaurus · 08/12/2021 11:29

One single message from your wife: Stop contacting me. It is unwanted. Any instance of further contact will be seen as harrassment and reported to the police.

Then she blocks him again, so he has to find a new way of contacting her, making it a deliberate act.

And grow up - childish threats/thoughts of violence will do you no good - and your wife will probably think you're a total dick for just having had the thought!

girlmom21 · 08/12/2021 11:35

If she's blocked him he won't contact her again but if they're completely random messages why hasn't she blocked him previously, and are you sure she hasn't been communicating with him?

Changing her phone number would be a more sensible solution than confronting him.

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Sunday123456 · 08/12/2021 11:37

He is smitten with her, after 13 yrs?? so the texts are all just above board - he is trying to be friendly but just a load of bolloxs.
I think my ego is getting in the way....
Just leave it be - seems like good advice.
Thanks

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Sunday123456 · 08/12/2021 11:39

She tried to be kind by ignoring, then blocked his number, then FB, and finally he contacted messenger - which she has now subsequently blocked?

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bluebells34 · 08/12/2021 12:25

He sounds like an annoying childish man - just keep on ignoring him

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