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Have you ever been glad you didn’t go on a date?

15 replies

Jackthementalkitten · 07/12/2021 21:24

Supposed too of meet a guy about 3 weeks ago. Booked day off work as birthday weekend. Got a message from him an hour before, was drunk at football have too postpone. No apology, all I got in return - when I said I didn’t want too reschedule, ‘oh’ Got back in touch today, sending me full on sexual texts, calling me a cunt and a bitch and at the end - tongue piercings give the best blow jobs. Right ok. All this without me saying a word. Damn lucky escape

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ComtesseDeSpair · 07/12/2021 21:46

Yup. In my mid twenties, had two reasonably good dates with an Italian guy who I thought was a bit full-on and over-exuberant but hadn’t don’t a lot of dating at that point and thought it was just the whole stereotypical lively, animated Italian thing. Came down with tonsillitis the day before our planned third date and sent a message to ask if we could meet the following week instead.

An hour later I received a message which was almost literally as long as War and Peace, detailing all the reasons why I shouldn’t break up with him, that his last girlfriend had postponed him coming to see her because she was cheating and he couldn’t bear that to happen again, he was going to come over right away to look after me and make sure I knew how much he loved me, how he’d already been out and bought me my Christmas and birthday presents because he’d thought we’d be together forever and chosen things which were meaningful to “our connection” (this was early September, and my birthday is in April.)

I have never been so glad to have had tonsillitis!

Mermaidwaves · 07/12/2021 21:47

Definitely a lucky escape! Sadly I was a fool when I was dating and ignored glaring red flags Hmm but all the ones I had that spidey vibe about turned out to be bad for me.
Good on you for spotting a ⛳

Inthesameboatatmo · 08/12/2021 08:33

I've had a few lucky escapes to be honest but the best one hands down has to be the guy who told me the night before the date that he was going clinically diagnosed psychopath!!!! Fuck me .

Inthesameboatatmo · 08/12/2021 08:33

He was a*

Coldenoughforyou · 08/12/2021 08:35

I cancelled on someone for a genuine reason and put it really nicely. He called me ‘the most despicable person he had ever met.’ Confused

Whiskeyandwine · 08/12/2021 09:08

@ComtesseDeSpair

Yup. In my mid twenties, had two reasonably good dates with an Italian guy who I thought was a bit full-on and over-exuberant but hadn’t don’t a lot of dating at that point and thought it was just the whole stereotypical lively, animated Italian thing. Came down with tonsillitis the day before our planned third date and sent a message to ask if we could meet the following week instead.

An hour later I received a message which was almost literally as long as War and Peace, detailing all the reasons why I shouldn’t break up with him, that his last girlfriend had postponed him coming to see her because she was cheating and he couldn’t bear that to happen again, he was going to come over right away to look after me and make sure I knew how much he loved me, how he’d already been out and bought me my Christmas and birthday presents because he’d thought we’d be together forever and chosen things which were meaningful to “our connection” (this was early September, and my birthday is in April.)

I have never been so glad to have had tonsillitis!

He wasn’t a doctor was he? I dated a similar sounding guy. He told me the last girl he dated for a couple of weeks , he decided to sell his Ferrari for a family hatchback car as she mentioned wanting kids one day! He was sooo intense, he ended up getting his brother to stalk me online dating and his brother was trying to chat to me. We’d only been on two dates and I told him I wouldn’t go exclusive yet and was still online dating until we decided together to come off.
Mycatisthebest · 08/12/2021 09:21

Wow Op he sounds a charmer! Lucky escape for you!

SimoneSimone · 08/12/2021 10:21

Damn lucky indeed

Nahnahnah · 08/12/2021 15:29

Imagine being on a date with him though and he's really like that. Dodged a bullet there and the universe was working for you.
I did nearly go on a date with someone who I am glad I didn't. Spoke to him on the phone and could hardly understand a word he said as he had a thick Bury accent. I kept having ask him to repeat himself and still couldn't get my head round what he was saying so was glad I didn't meet him. I mean you've got to be able to converse with your date! Grin

Trisolaris · 08/12/2021 15:36

I had to cancel on an upcoming date with a guy because I was sick and he kept on suggesting different things I should try to make myself better. I knew it was just a virus and I needed to rest but after I’d told him that 4 or 5 times and he kept on coming back with other things I should do to make myself better in time for our date I just stopped replying. For months after he would occasionally send me messages demanding answers for why I wasn’t talking to him until I blocked him.

GrumpyLivesInMyHouseNow · 08/12/2021 15:37

My mum was asked out by a man she knew from college. She turned him down. A few years later he was arrested for killing a number of women.

NotanotherboxofFrogs · 08/12/2021 15:54

I've told this one on here before. I worked with John at one point, he dropped hints that he liked me, I moved on to a different job, we lost touch as you do, he got my number about a year later from a mutual connection, the same weekend I announced my engagement.

I get a call 2 days later from John who was unaware of this and proceeded to ask me out. Something made me put the call on speaker with my partner there, I never do this as I hate it. John proceeded to swear at me and call me all sorts of names. I hung up,

Fast forward a couple of years and I hear on the news that there was a murder in a small village, where I knew John lived, sick feeling in my stomach. He murdered one person and manslaughter for the other person both members of his close family, he claimed diminished responsibility by reason of insanity. Lucky escape for me.

Desolate2nite · 08/12/2021 20:31

I turned someone down online, a few months later he was in the news for raping, murdering and dismembering his girlfriend's housemate

B2TN · 08/12/2021 23:27

Yes several times! But then sometimes I think you have got to put yourself out there

Newbabynewhouse · 08/12/2021 23:36

Invited to a guys house for a house party when i was 20 (his idea of a date) i went to school with him and he seemed ok but something said i shouldn't go... turned out he had no job and was living there getting it all paid for for him as he didnt want a job.. then saw on Facebook a few months later arguments with a girl who was his ex .. she was posting all over fb for the world to see how she had to pay for everything and he was retaliating.. all very cringey

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