Would you have expected him to have been in touch?

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Been in a relationship with someone since August. I went to a funeral yesterday, someone relatively close not hugely. I had been upset and spoken to my partner about it very briefly. I was mostly worried about going alone as numbers were limited.

I heard from him Sunday evening and he said he hoped I was ok and it went well. I then didn’t hear from him on the day.

There wasn’t a test I was carrying out, it only just occurred to me this morning. I was sad last night and it was a weird evening. Would you have expected your partner to have been in touch?

Sorry - do you mean he texted you the night before to wish you well and then nothing since or have you heard from him this morning?

Wouldn't have had any expectations either way. People want different things when they're grieving - some like messages of support and some get overwhelmed by them and just want to be left alone. Hard to guess which is preferred.

If I'd felt I needed support on the day of the funeral I'd have texted him myself.

It shared to tell what people want on such occasions. Even when you have known someone for a while.
This is a very new relationship - so you haven’t seen each other in different situations.
I always think - there is no need to play games and double guess each other. If you want to talk to someone, or need their support - you need to make it clear. Not sit there and wonder if they’ll reach out.

Sorry, it's not clear - did you not get in touch with him either? If he'd said beforehand that he hoped it went well and that was your last interaction, it's fine for him to be waiting to hear from you whether it did go well and how you are. I wouldn't interpret it as anything other than him being respectful and letting you contact him when you're up to it. If you need to communicate with him, do so. Everyone's expectations are different.

Everyone has different ways of grieving so he may have wanted to be respectful by giving you space and letting you set the tone for how much interaction you needed. These are things you only learn over time with someone, and you do need to teach people this. So if you are feeling sad then you should message him and let him know you'd fancy a chat.