DH and I have been together for almost a decade and have always been incredibly independent, think busy jobs and hobbies taking up a lot of free time. Since covid began we’ve obviously spent a lot more time together. He now wfh exclusively and I tend to go into the office once, maybe twice a week.
We have very different working styles, my job is full on and requires a lot of concentration, whereas his is a lot more 9-5. He’ll often waltz into my office and start talking to me without any regard to what I’m doing, it’s like being near the office chatterbox 24/7.
He’s great around the house, brings me a coffee each morning and cooks dinner most nights, yet seemingly can’t make any decisions for himself so everything seems to be an endless inane conversation and then 20mins later he’ll do the opposite of what we’d discussed as he “doesn’t remember what we’ve agreed”. There’s also the usual irritations like leaving the lights on, which would normally irk me but are now causing major frustrations. I just feel like I’m turning into his mum rather than his wife these days.
Hygiene seems to also have gone downhill, and exercise is non-existent, whereas I’m still trying to eat healthily, shower daily and try to exercise most days.
I’m just finding life such a chore and feeling really claustrophobic and don’t know what to do. I love him dearly but desperately long to have some time apart where I can just be without feeling I need to have all the answers for him.
Please tell me I’m not alone in craving the old normal?