Marriage Breakdown - Feel alone

[MrsDWashington]

My marriage has broken down and I feel dreadful.

Been married for 6 years. Problems been showing for a little while mostly down to money and different parenting approaches.

Got to the point were I was having to explain every single transaction I made on the joint account even for little things like cleaning stuff and Christmas presents (under £25.00).

Child is mine (teenager) not his and he states I'm far too soft.

Long story short I asked him to leave after a big row were everything came out he told my child off before she had done something wrong, apparently just to warn her just in case she did said thing (not allowed to eat upstairs, she was sat at the table eating but warned her not to go upstairs when she hadn't even attempted to).

I feel very much alone as child is a teenager and with her friends a lot. As I've got older I have only a couple of friends now and feel very lonely. I know this is all new but I'm just wondering if it gets easier.

Hi OP, just bumping this one for you in the hope that someone will be able to help.

OP, I haven't been in your situation, but couldn't read and run.
It sounds all very fresh, as time goes by it will get easier. Perhaps now is the time to rediscover yourself? Dust off that bucket list and see if you could tick few things off? Even if it's the last thing you feel like doing. At the very least it will keep your mind off the break up for a while.

Sorry to hear this, OP. I don't have any real advice, but have you thought about options for making new friends or at least, socialising with new people even if they don't ultimately become friends. Any interests you could join a local group for - sports, book group, for example?
Hoping things improve for you soon .
From all you say, you are much better off without him.

@ClaraMumsnet Thank you

Hi Op, try not to feel too down about being alone at the moment. Easy to say, I know, sorry - but time will pass and things will get easier. It's hard for all of us (and yes, there are lots of us) to adjust to being alone. Time is on your side.
And yes, your DD will be becoming more independent over the next few years but that time passes too, and you won't lose her. Relationships just change, it doesn't mean they're worth less.
Hang on in there. Life can be better in many ways when you're free to live it your own way.

Yeah, been there. And yes it does get easier.
It’s awful experience seeing someone you fell for, and the relationship you hope for just crumble. It’s worth remembering why the relationship broke down when the doubts start creeping in.

I am on my own now. I have seen my so graduate, on my own. But it has its blessing too. I would never want to be around someone who so willingly put my son down. Bullied him. Never again. I am sure your daughter respects you more for ending the relationship rather than put her through further bullying by your ex.

Every day gets better. Find yourself again.

I am currently taking myself to the odd coffee shops, I go for a run when I can, and do the things that bring me joy. I am slowly heeling.

You will adapt to single hood and honestly it has its perks. I can do whatever and it’s so much better than listening to a bully

It does get better OP. I am two years on and I have adapted, got my life together and have never felt stronger. It sounds like it is early days for you- it is a cliche, but just take things day by day for now and be kind to yourself. Accept that it will take time to recover, ride it out and you will come out the other side, you really will

It will get easier. It’s better to be happy alone than miserable in company

You have done the right thing by your daughter, and now you can be free to control your own money you can use it to join a hobby or class where you can meet other people maybe?

It’s very very early days OP I know it feels awful atm but at least now your free to control your own finances and I’m sure your daughter will be happier at home now there’s not a bully in the house. Maybe join a gym and do some classes- Zumba ect? I’ve always got speaking to other women that way and the exercise really helps lift your mood! X