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Feeling alone during pregnancy unsupportive ex

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Sister542 · 05/12/2021 01:27

Hi, am currently pregnant. I was not too long ago in therapy due to anxiety from the relationship I had with my unborn baby father. I always felt as if I was being controlled and manipulated but my therapist pointed out his behaviour as coercive and abusive which helped me to accept it more.

When I first became pregnant he asked if we could try again under the condition I convert but I said no. Months on he has made it clear he won't be supporting me and made me feel low and like nothing, even saying he now doesn't want to see me naked during labour when he has many times before. I'm starting to lose my self and I've even been so vulnerable to him on how I need him and if he can just check on me as I'm finding pregnancy alone hard. He's not bothered how I feel in pregnancy it's like all of a sudden any care for me has gone no matter how much I ask for him to just check in on me he doesn't want to. It gets to me because when we were not together or in a couple he cared and now I've said I needed him he doesn't want to be there for me and he knows I'm struggling

I just don't know how I can co-parent with him without losing myself or breaking from it. I really need advice. (I also don't trust him and his family to take the baby unsupervised as I have a feeling they will not bring her back ever)

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Warhertisuff · 05/12/2021 11:49

Hi. Really sorry you're experiencing this... I'm thinking you probably need to ask this to be moved to the Relationships board rather than Covid?

KimMumsnet · 05/12/2021 12:21

Hi, OP. We'll move this thread to Relationships for you now.
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Sister542 · 05/12/2021 16:50

yes i realised i put it in the wrong section and reported it x

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