My boyfriend (27) and I (25) have been together for 2 years and are currently living together in France. He has been told by his boss that they'd like to send him to Montreal for a year or so for work: he still has to do interviews, but it's looking pretty favourable towards him. Our relationship has been pretty solid despite COVID restrictions, but I don't want to go long-distance. His sister lives in Canada (albeit an 8-hour drive from Montreal), but I don't know anyone out there and have never been. He's asked me to go with him if he goes, but I'm unsure for a couple of reasons.
My career wouldn't be affected so much, since I was looking to change jobs at the end of my current contract anyway.
My main issues are the following:
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Will we have animosity towards one another for having moved over there (or having stayed here if he chooses not to go) if things don't turn out? This might cause us to go our separate ways anyway.
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He is a home bird and, on going to Montreal the other month, said he didn't really picture himself living there.
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Like many others, he is unable to commit to saying that he wants to be with me for a long time. It's fine usually, but when you're putting all your eggs in one basket, it's nice to know that you are not doing it for someone who's on the same page as you.
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There's no guarantee he'd only go for a year.
I'm feeling very conflicted. Does anyone have any advice?