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How did you heal from your divorce?

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curlyhairchick · 03/12/2021 19:24

Hi everyone

Just wanted to ask how did you heal from a divorce or the end of a serious relationship?

Is it more difficult if you have a child/children?
How did you make it work in terms of co-parenting?

Please tell me you found your happily ever after at some point?

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mug2018 · 03/12/2021 19:33

Value yourself and focus on positive things that bring you joy. I divorced with an 11yr old & the ExH attempted to poison her against me & say it was me that ended the marriage - I did & it was with very good reason, but I didn't bow to the guilt & focused on what made my daughter & I happy.
I was perfectly happy as a single mum, but unexpectedly fell in love with an amazing man 2yrs after my divorce. It's been difficult as the ExH continues to poison my DD, but I remind myself that I deserve to be happy, that I'm a good mum & a good person & my partner is amazingly supportive, so we ride storms together.
Love yourself & remind yourself that life is short & your happiness is precious.
Good luck ... your future will be bright, if you believe it will be.

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curlyhairchick · 03/12/2021 19:40

@mug2018 love your reply and glad you found happiness again.

I have very young baby (less than 1 year old) old and really scared that my narcissistic mother in law is going to poison his head (she did the same to her children against their dad when she divorced and still does 25 years later).

It's just funny because you imagine your entire life with this single person and then when that's gone you don't know how and where to go from there. It's almost seems weird to think you could possibly be with someone else...

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mug2018 · 03/12/2021 19:51

You have no 'commitment' to you MIL - be strong & allow them to share your child's life on YOUR terms for the benefit of your child.

Remind yourself that you deserve to be happy & make sure you do something little each day to ReInforce that. Stay true to yourself & be strong in your decisions & focus on your own life with your child & when you are good and ready, you will find someone to share your future with who will value & encourage you.
You've got this. Xxx

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