Can I be happy without someone?

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This might be a bit of a stupid post but I’m in a bit of a rut in life and need a bit of a moral boost. I’m unhappily single at the moment but I’m trying not to dwell on that and enjoying what I do have in life. I’m pushing 30 though and I always wanted to have the cliche of a nice man and a family… but that doesn’t just fall from the sky. I’m finding myself spiralling into these fantasies almost, kind of willing it to happen

I think the real question is would you be happier with someone. If you think the answer to that is yes, then put yourself out there and make an effort to meet someone. And you're right, it's not going to fall into your lap.

Those are totally normal things to value. What has more value than that? Maybe try the self authoring program? It's designed to help plan the future.

The answer to your headline question is definitely "yes" but you currently regard yourself as unhappy on your own so you need to find ways of changing that. I think the easiest way to do that, put simply, is to get yourself into a place where you like yourself and where you have a rich and varied set of (non-sexual) relationships with others. How far do you think you are away from those ideals and do you have thoughts as to how to close the gaps?