Help me please

[dragonfly2012]

My partner has such bad moods, he throws things around the house etc. I got into debt as was so depressed . Managed to try and sort my finances out abs have a second job. He says it’s a pathetic idea to get another job etc. I feel really down

He needs to be your ex partner now because what you're describing here is domestic violence towards you.

How can you be helped here into leaving your abuser?. What is the situation re finances and the property?. Do you have children?.

If you can go out to a branch of Boots their stores have consultation rooms you can use to access domestic violence support services. You need to ask for ANI (action needed immediately). Womens Aid also can and will help you.

Hi , he keeps questioning what I’m going to do with the money , I said I will pay off my debts and be debt free quicker , he then says this isn’t going to benefit the family . My confidence has really gone down . I’m trying to make the situation better . I spoke to his mum she said “ah he’s always been like that”

The only way this will improve for you is to plan your exit with a view to leaving safely.

Abusive behaviour will reduce anyone's confidence over time. It is also insidious in its onset.

His mother is not worth talking to; she is making excuses for her son's abusive behaviour and will always side with him out of misplaced loyalty. His father was likely abusive towards her.

I would urge you to contact Womens Aid when it is safe for you to do so; does he leave the house much?.

No he doesn’t leave the house much as we r both working from home, whenever I leave the house he questions where I am going etc