So I have a bit of a sticky situation. I was with my DP (now ex) for 5 years and he was my first real sexual partner so when we first got together I thought our sex was great. We loved each other a lot so had a great emotional connection and I was also attracted to him. However, our relationship started to go down the pan for various reasons and I think I lost my attraction towards him as a result. Not so much physically but just emotionally etc. Towards the end of our relationship our sex was pretty boring, same thing every time, not much excitement.
We split for about 6 months and didn't talk at all, he has made quite a few big changes in his life and we are now reconsidering things and speaking again but taking it slow. Whilst we were apart I did have a couple of sexual encounters with other men and it's got me thinking about my sex life with my DexP. I've learnt more about what it is I enjoy in the bedroom and I want DP to fulfill this but I'm not sure how to get there. He can be a little hesitant and I want him to just take control and stop worrying so much about if I like something etc, I have told him this is very sweet but I will let him know if I'm not happy/comfortable in a certain situation.
My question is, can sexual chemistry in your experience be taught/learnt or is it something that if you don't have naturally you never will have? Apart from this, our relationship is great in many ways. I just don't want to be thinking I could be having much better sex elsewhere. We are meeting up in a couple of weeks and I think sex could be on the cards so just trying to figure things out!