Warning rape - hand hold please

[myothercarisaskoda]

My 14 year old daughter disclosed to her school the other week that she was raped months ago by her then boyfriend. She's held it in all that time, but was really relieved when it came out, and has seemed so much happier since.

It was a terrible thing for her to go through and to hold in, and I felt so sorry for her when she told us.

I can't describe the emotions I felt.

We told the police. They've given her time but she's decided not to do anything about it. I respect her decision.

I'm angry he's got away with it and I'm in a mess. I know the main thing is that my daughter feels so much better for disclosing it, and she's away from that bastard and safe but how do I deal with it? I'm angry beyond belief.

The police won't do anything as it would take my daughter's trust away from them. Her reason for not taking it further is because she justs wants it done, understandably.

Just some words of comfort please. Please please be kind.

@Heruka thank you so much, that's really lovely of you and very helpful.

Do you work in social care?

Yes. I do hope that you have good support around you and that your counselling comes up soon.

@Heruka thank you.

Will social services automatically know about this from the police?

The police officer dealing with my daughter has rung me today saying that she went to see her again. She's changed her mind about doing the police interview, but unsure whether she wants to take it further. Which has changed from not wanting to take it further.

The officer said that it'll do her good anyway, and will save her doing it at a later date.

I asked if the social services automatically get informed, and she said yes, that's been done, and the family may get a visit!

Oh that’s a good development, but maybe lots of big feelings for you to hold when your daughter gets home today. As well as your own! A sw visit may be helpful in considering any other supports needed for your daughter, and they are likely to do checks behind the scenes if they have other information about the boy. You wouldn’t likely be told much about this but again reassuring to you that people who can protect other young women and children know and will follow processes where they can.

So very glad to hear this op

Thank you @Heruka and @Dragongirl10 and again, thank you to everyone else!