About 3 years ago my brother, (C) and SIL had a huge falling out with our parents and my other siblings.
It is a very long story and there were so many aspects to the argument that it's too much to go into but it came out of the blue, as we have always got on very well as a family.
Since then I have had very little contact with him and it's all been superficual, a few texts, I sent his kids birthday presents etc. There has also been very little contact with my parents and other siblings which is heartbreaking for my parents as they really miss him and their grandchildren.
I really want to make up. I miss him and hate all the bad feeling but I just can't forgive him for some of the things he said to and about my family. accusations of abuse and bullying and lying about things I said to him. Even if we do make up I don't think our releationship can ever be the same again.
Our other brothers daughter is getting married next year and he might be coming home for it, (he lives abroad) . it was my neices decision to invite him as she's not completly aware of what happened. This other brother has tried a few times to smooth things over but C isnt willing unless we all admitt to the bad behaviour he accused us of and basically agree to all his demands. I can't do that. I know I didn't do the things I'm accused of and neither did my parents.
I'm planning to send a Christmas present and have been trying to compose a message to ask him if we can make up but I can't put it into words and I just go round and round.
Part of me just wants to stay NC with him as thats easier but on the other hand, my family is very important to me and I miss him.
Any suggestions? Has anone been through something like this and made up in the end?