Unrequited love, need some hugs

[Potplant89]

I recently experienced this heartbreak after letting go of someone that I eventually realised didn’t feel the same way after a while of convincing myself for a year that he did. Actions speak louder than words so to speak and he led me on with his words and promises but never fulfilled any of them, but I ignored it because I thought I was in love, only for him to tell me months later that he couldn’t do it anymore and that he met someone at work and they just “clicked”. Of course, he wanted to remain friends and didn’t understand how I could possibly be hurt at all. He for sure got the boot but the pain is horrible, I feel so insignificant and stupid.

You are neither insignificant nor stupid. Please have nothing to do with him ever again because he will either change his mind and want to come back or want to be your friend to talk about her.

Google limerance it was something I read on here and was an eye opener.

On a brighter note, you have/are realising you are worth far more than the scraps of a relationship. He wanted to stay friends to keep u hooked, in case in doesn't work out with the new one. He still isn't prioritising or thinking of your needs or wants after the break up. It's all him, him, him.

I think you've lost a loser and are gaining your self worth back.

@PoddingtonPea21

Google limerance it was something I read on here and was an eye opener.

On a brighter note, you have/are realising you are worth far more than the scraps of a relationship. He wanted to stay friends to keep u hooked, in case in doesn't work out with the new one. He still isn't prioritising or thinking of your needs or wants after the break up. It's all him, him, him.

I think you've lost a loser and are gaining your self worth back.

Will do thank you. Yes, I’m just struggling with my self worth at the moment, but trying to stay positive! I seem to fall for the wrong men though

Me too! I started by instead of sitting around thinking of him, I would pamper myself at home or get myself a little treat (not expensive).

Just like a pill - pink
Somebody I used to know - gotye
I will survive - Gloria

I play these kind of songs & sing my heart out instead of giving my ex loser any headspace always makes feel better. It will get better and easier.

I couldnt read yr post & not reply ... sending you a big hug, I am going through very similar. Different circumstances but the same end result, I loved him so much but he's gone & now with another & seems happy. I feel torn apart & my health is starting to suffer. They say time is a healer, but its a very slow process. Im sorry I have no words of wisdom, but just wanted to tell you you're not alone x

Things will get easier.

From reading your OP, it’s not clear if you had actually dated. Or if you were friends and you were hoping for more.

Sending hugs too.

Treat yourself as pp suggested- and Beyoncé on the playlist helps me - Irreplaceable and best thing I never had.

Also one (an oldie) I can’t remember who sings it but “get along without you”

The best thing you can really do is learn from this. That’s my mindset anyway.
So that when you meet the right person you are in the right place xx