How does your DH react?

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If something out of your control goes wrong or turns out really shitty for you and upsets you, how does your DH react?

I've just had some shit news about my uni course that's out of my control. It's left me feeling really anxious and upset, lots and lots of background info that would take me hours to write down (I wouldn't bore you)

But basically, my DH didn't ask me if I was ok, or show any kind of supportive, caring kind of reaction.

He actually added to my anxiety and made me feel like the whole thing is my fault, even though we both know it isn't.

Now it's got me thinking, wow I married a selfish prick. I've known he was selfish for years but this has threw me.

I just needed a hug, or even a "are you ok"

Tired of looking after him and putting his needs first.

Sorry I needed to rant. I'm 3 months post partum and have my first period so probably feeling extra emotional but I'm really annoyed.

Bottom line is: we support people we love. Even very selfish people still manage to do this. Either he's a narc or he's fallen out of love with you. You deserved support xx

Just so self consumed, straight away worried how the situation would effect him, I really thought he could at least for once put himself in my shoes and see why I'm struggling and that I needed support.

Difficulties empathising - he could be a narc!

I don't see the point of having people in your life who aren't kind and supportive.

He hasn't reacted as a kind or supportive person.
Do you need/want him in your life?
He sounds like a drag.

Don't write off your normal human reactions as "hormones". If course you're upset about being treated badly by someone who's supposed to care for you.

Men have hormones too. The only reason they're used as a reason to invalidate and dismiss women is misogyny. Don't do that to yourself.