Leaving him.. I’m exauhsted :(

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I posted a few weeks ago about my awful relationship (can you read it for a back story?)

My 5 year relationship has been painful & mentally destroying. My partner has gone totally cold this year, he can’t kiss me, hug me, nothing. But eats the dinner I make etc you know the drill….
I’ve told him it’s done & over.
I don’t do social media I hate it but just for confirmation & I was intrigued.. I looked at his Facebook through my friends account last night……
I discovered he posts photos & loving messages about all his children but never posted anything about our 3 year old ever. He has never posted anything about me or us in 5 years. He looks a single man. He posts photos out with his work team on nights out, photos with family, etc nothing of me. Women comment flirty on his photos with winks etc… he likes women’s photos. I’m so hurt. He posts photos & videos of him dancing in his car acting happy whilst I’m crying at home.
I’ve showed him & confronted him and he says “there’s nothing in it”
He’s still got his wedding photos on there too from 10 years ago. Honestly I feel a mug. I’ve been the good woman at home, earning a living, being rejected & un loved, cooking his dinner, making a home looking after the kids and he’s portrayed himself single & I don’t exsist.

The last kick in the face for me.
Would this bother you? X

Of course it would, but the important thing is that you have already decided to leave him and you know he is an unfeeling bastard with no respect for you. Move on as fast and as much as you can, he will never be a good partner.

I'd certainly want to know why he's never posted a single picture of you or your child when he's posting everything else. 'Theres nothing in it' wouldn't be a good enough answer for me.

It sounds horrible for him to do that and also really strange. I hope that you can move on and have a much brighter future without this guy mistreating you.

He sounds like a mean, selfish, prick. Yes this would hurt me. Especially not posting about your shared DC. That would be a nail in the coffin and I would most certainly be done with him.

You've been a good partner, and you've realised you need to leave. And you're leaving.

You're doing well, and you're obviously capable of being a loving, supportive partner, with strong boundaries. Focus on you, and your good traits, and distancing yourself from anybody who will take advantage of you.

He's given you a good lesson in how a relationship shouldn't look. When not to stay. And you've learned it. Your job now is to apply what you've learned in the future.

You can move forward from here with a greater sense of self confidence, and find a better relationship with a better partner.

It hurts; we would all be hurt. But once you've had some time to heal up a bit, you'll realise you're in a good place. You've built some foundations. You've strengthened your core.

Concentrate on being lovely to yourself. It's what you'll need right now, and, frankly, what you'll always want.

It would bother me enough to end the relationship!

I hope you have stopped providing catering and maid service.